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Anyone ever had an aged loved one with congested heart failure
and also weakening kidneys. My 93 y/o mother does. She needs a diuretic to keep fluid from building up in her lungs. When fluid builds up, her heart works much harder and she cannot "get a good breath".
However, a weak kidney needs to remain wet, with fluids. Her general practitioner and cardio doctor are trying to balance the diuretic but she now has to take more than her gp would like. When we discussed it with the Cardio doctor, she said by taking the diuretic more, she is choosing quality of life over quantity. (she said that while I and my mother was in the office which I thought was a little too frank but I do like the dr.) I am thinking it is best to take the diuretics to rest her heart. If her heart works too hard and starts to really weaken, her kidneys are going to start to shut down anyhow. Anyone have experience with that. |
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My Mom was 82 when she passed, and her organs just started to shut down, and it was like a domino effect that they couldn't help for long. Every med they gave her weakened her kidneys and stressed out the other organs like the heart.
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MIL passed at 98 last November. Parts just start to wear out and not function properly. Our only regret was letting the Dr.s keep her on oxygen for extra days. She was on morphine to keep her calm and the O2 was essentially breathing for her. After removing her from the O2 she passed within 20 minutes. Please be aware that unless you request removal adamantly, the quality of life is not there and neither is the dignity. Sorry for your predicament and I can appreciate what is going thru your mind right now.
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Dad was 96 when he passed two years ago. He actually out lasted his first pace maker. He was on diuretics for so long, that it finally took it's toll on his kidneys and of course his heart.
Both his kidneys and heart got so weak he just couldn't go on. Both organs started shutting down simultaneously. There is something to be said for the quaility of life. You have a very hard road ahead of you. My Prayers. |
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Thanks to all of you far the heartfelt comments. I will take heed to your comments regarding O2 an ventilators. She has a living will. Her mind is strong. If she does not want to go to the hospital, we do not force her. She is in charge of her health and well being.
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My pup had it......which I know doesn't compare to a parent that has it. Sending prayers your way to help with the choices ahead.
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take diuretic every day for my heart. no kidney complications though.
hope she gets better. |
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I commend you for following what your Mother wants but please make sure everyone is aware what she wants especially if she does not want to be resuscitated and put on a ventilator. It's not unheard of for a family member to rescind a patients wishes and it only takes one family member to object unless someone has medical power of attorney. Feel free to PM me any questions you might have. I don't have or pretend to have all the answers I can only tell you what I know and have seen. Sorry for all you have to go through it's never easy. Quote:
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My Dad (93) had CHF for years until he passed last week. Kidney failure didn't occur until the week before he died, but the doctors told us that was the one thing they could not fix. He had broken his hip 8 weeks ago and that was the beginning of the end, so to speak. On that basis alone, I just don't feel like my experience can add meaningfully to what you're going through. My prayers are with you.
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My mom passed from CHF at age 90. I can't add much to what has already been posted. Her mind was sharp, but her body failed her. Towards the end, it seemed like it was a fast downhill slide. My only complaint with her doctor was his unwillingness to use all methods at his disposal to manage her pain at the end. I mean seriously- it was obvious she was nearing the end of her life, and a long-term drug addiction just wasn't on my list of concerns at the time. I dug my heels in, and I can at least say she spent her final days in relative comfort.
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My Mom too at 91 from CHF, legs swollen, hard to walk, on oxygen, sharp as a tack though, was still bustin' my chops like I was a little kid, she passed last year, miss her.
Last doctor's visit I was told she would hang on for about 6 months. Moved her close to me in a nice assisted living quarters, she loved it. After a while, 2 months, AL could not give her the care she needed, was going down hill fast. She had to go into nursing, lasted 10 days. Best of luck, be strong for her.
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I'm sorry to hear this, I lost both of my parents to this in the end..
This will be a tough time for you, and your family. |
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Yes, my mother at 83 years old. CHF and surgery to drain the fluid till nothing worked any more and after the second episode of drawing off 7 liters of fluid, she said that's it and was dead 5 days later.
Her kidneys and liver had been so damaged over the years by the huge number of meds her so called "doctor" prescribed.....I tried for 30 years to get her away from him. We even put her in a mental health unit 4 times so he couldn't get to her. Just to get her off the meds. We all kept telling her that he was killing her and he came very close twice. She still thought he was a god and cared about her. When the final days came and she was told why her body was shutting down, she said to us "Well, you girls were right. He has killed me" It was not a good death.....I still have nightmares about her final day. I hope that karma exists and he gets his reward 100 times worse than what he did to my mother. I'll keep you and your mom in my prayers. |
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My Dad has it,his pacemaker went nuts yesterday and the Dr. couldn't get his heart beat back to normal so they shocked him and that worked.
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