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Old 06-29-2021, 3:39pm   #1
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Default Divorce coming near an end.

I'm pretty sure that my soon to be ex is ass raping me, but in the end, it is better than being miserable the rest of my life. She is getting the house, approx $150k in equity, the furniture I bought with no help from her, child support for the next year, even though I will have my own house, and my kid can stay with me, and 50% of my .mil retirement until I'm dead, starting at 59 years old and some change. I leave with my cars and bikes which I bought, and the clothes on my back. It makes me feel better about totally supporting her while she pursued her masters degree, making her car payments, paying her credit cards off etc. Yep, I've come out smelling like a rose on this one.....Greed has no bounds with her, and I realized it early on but was too stupid to dump her in the 90's.
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Having been married almost 45 years to the love of my life I can’t begin to imagine what you’re going through. Hopefully you can move on albeit poorer. Good luck.

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Been there, all behind me now, I survived.
One day, that greed will bite her in the ass.
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Sorry man. My financial advisor told me to never get divorced.
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Cheaper to keep her.
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Sorry man. My financial advisor told me to never get divorced.
Smart.
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Well, you can regret the material things you lost, but it sounds like the major benefit to you was ending a painful relationship with a total shrew. You're better off, bud. It will get better, and now you can take proactive steps to make your life better.
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How old are you?
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Having been married almost 45 years to the love of my life I can’t begin to imagine what you’re going through. Hopefully you can move on albeit poorer. Good luck.

I'll have to agree with Steverino, 49.5 years here with my life partner.
Hope it works out well for you.
My younger brother has been married for over 35 years.
Older brother, married 4 times, single right now.
Older sister made it to 20 years, divorced/single too.

Who knows why things work/don't work.
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I'll have to agree with Steverino, 49.5 years here with my life partner.
Hope it works out well for you.
My younger brother has been married for over 35 years.
Older brother, married 4 times, single right now.
Older sister made it to 20 years, divorced/single too.

Who knows why things work/don't work.
Between your older brother and my older brother they have 8 marriages.
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That sucks.
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Well, you can regret the material things you lost, but it sounds like the major benefit to you was ending a painful relationship with a total shrew. You're better off, bud. It will get better, and now you can take proactive steps to make your life better.
I'm already moving in a good direction. If she ever finds someone else to put up with her, I feel sorry for them. They are nothing but a paycheck in the end.
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I'll have to agree with Steverino, 49.5 years here with my life partner.
Hope it works out well for you.
My younger brother has been married for over 35 years.
Older brother, married 4 times, single right now.
Older sister made it to 20 years, divorced/single too.

Who knows why things work/don't work.
Problem is, I knew early in the marriage, and was told by literally everyone including my Mom to dump her. I wanted to be a good person, and when kids came along, wanted to always be there for them because my Dad died when I was a kid. She is a miserable individual, and I refuse to go in that direction. She takes no responsibility in the divorce, which is fitting. She has what she does because of me, but oh well. I hope her and her new boyfriend enjoy what I built.
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Sorry man. My financial advisor told me to never get divorced.
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Cheaper to keep her.
Cheaper than hiring a hitman?
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Enjoy your new life and freedom!
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First, congrats on being "almost there"

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I'm already moving in a good direction. If she ever finds someone else to put up with her, I feel sorry for them. They are nothing but a paycheck in the end.
Karma works in mysterious ways, you just keep moving forward and you'll find the best revenge is to just enjoy your life
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I'm already moving in a good direction. If she ever finds someone else to put up with her, I feel sorry for them. They are nothing but a paycheck in the end.
To a lot of women, that is all men are.
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I'm pretty sure that my soon to be ex is ass raping me, but in the end, it is better than being miserable the rest of my life. She is getting the house, approx $150k in equity, the furniture I bought with no help from her, child support for the next year, even though I will have my own house, and my kid can stay with me, and 50% of my .mil retirement until I'm dead, starting at 59 years old and some change. I leave with my cars and bikes which I bought, and the clothes on my back. It makes me feel better about totally supporting her while she pursued her masters degree, making her car payments, paying her credit cards off etc. Yep, I've come out smelling like a rose on this one.....Greed has no bounds with her, and I realized it early on but was too stupid to dump her in the 90's.
glad you are almost done, but none of it sounds good. Same here. I can relate

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Cheaper to keep her.
Nope. That math does not always work out.

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To most women, that is all men are.
Fixed

It sucks no matter what. Worse when kids are involved.
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I think you should get a lawyer. Just my opinion, but it sounds like you are getting screwed.
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