So, I...um...well...um...cough...met a gal...

[snide]

Originally Posted by Jeff '79

What a wonderfully eloquent description of your journey to the next chapter of your life.
You could actually be a writer, as that brought me to tears when I read it at work this afternoon.
If it feels right, you'll know it, and apparently it's time.
I wish you all the best .

Your life parallels my cousin's. He lost his wife to cancer 6 years ago and he compensated via boats, Harleys, trips etc.
Loneliness sucks, as you know. I told him that there is no need to torture yourself flying solo.... This after a good 4 years went by...
It took him 5 years, but he now has a girl as well.
Everything I do is for my wife. I can't imagine losing her and wanting to even get up in the morning. Everything happens for a reason so maybe your best times are ahead..... Let's hope so.

Pics of wife?

[OddBall]

She called me up this afternoon, we had dinner and just hung out.
Set up some plans for Friday.

Originally Posted by boracayjohnny

As someone who's gone through the same thing, you've done good and in a shorter time than some.

Someone once explained the grief as tsunami waves at first but as time goes by one learns to deal with it more effectively. The tsunami waves then become ripples.

Good on you. Enjoy things more now.

I remember you telling me that. You and the rest of the Barners were a real source of comfort during that time. At the time I couldn't imagine ever moving on. It's like time just stopped for the past five years. You telling me about your experience Johnny, had an impact with my decision to move on. I never forgot about it.

Originally Posted by Olustee bus

very well put there OddBall. Very nice tribute to your wonderful wife.
Now, to put this in perspective, do not doubt that you would be overchicked. If any lady takes an interest in you, you are overchicked!
J/K man. Very happy for you. Take it EASY

and

Originally Posted by Dan Dlabay

I can tell that you loved your wife and she loved you and wanted you move on with your life. . May your wife rest in peace and be blessed by God and may you be blessed by God.

Actually, Lori wasn't my wife. That was the plan; we were just waiting for her daughter to get out of school. I was more than willing to go ahead and tie the knot when we found out she had cancer, but when we found out she was terminal, she wouldn't allow it. She didn't want me hurting any more than she knew I would be when she was gone.

Originally Posted by Mike Mercury

suggestion; check her birth certificate and see what sex she was born as...

I told her you posted that! She got a good laugh. She says all parts are OEM.

Originally Posted by Kerrmudgeon

Well said Joe. I'm extremely happy for you. Like you say life without someone to share it with is bearable but feels empty. Even travel loses it's attraction. I'm in the same boat as you were....

Now.....if she has a sister....send her on over!

She has a brother, will that do?

Originally Posted by snide

Awesome! Oh, and welcome back. Some folks were starting to wonder what happened to you, since you hadn't posted for awhile.

Best of luck to you!

and

Originally Posted by wwomanC6

I wondered what happened to you? Glad to hear it's for something good! Good Luck and enjoy your new found friendship!

I was offline so long because my mom was sent to Hospice, we were pretty much waiting for her to die, and by chance we found out that she wasn't being given her Lasix, which keeps her lungs from filling up with fluid. She recovered and got sent back home, but it was a rough time. The COPD will eventually get her but she has some time yet.

[Bill]

Look, you're just going to have to level with this woman that your large, extended, disfunctional internet family is demanding pictures, and that it will just be easier to go along with the program. She'll find out about us sooner or later anyway.

[Black94lt1]

Congrats, it sounds like you have found a truly wonderful woman and now doubt that Lori is looking down with great satisfaction

[Fasglas]

Had a loss in 1975 which nearly destroyed me. Fact of the matter was, I didn't WANT anyone new. What I really wanted was not possible, so I muddled along not giving two flips about anything. Not much fun, but I really didn't care.

Fast forward 7 years. Met someone new. I wasn't looking, but, there she was. We started very light and things just seemed to come together on their own. Can't imagine being without her now.

#1 still holds a place in my heart, and always will.

Hope all works out well for you.

[OddBall]

Originally Posted by bill_daniels

Look, you're just going to have to level with this woman that your large, extended, disfunctional internet family is demanding pictures, and that it will just be easier to go along with the program. She'll find out about us sooner or later anyway.

Y'all will get a pic soon enough, just hold your horses.

[04 commemorative]

wow.....I wish you all the best man

[wwomanC6]

Originally Posted by OddBall

Y'all will get a pic soon enough, just hold your horses.

Holding our horses, Aye!

[lspencer534]

Originally Posted by OddBall

Y'all will get a pic soon enough, just hold your horses.

She does like horses, I assume?

[OddBall]

Originally Posted by lspencer534

She does like horses, I assume?

She had a couple at one time.

[snide]

Horse people are good people.

[SQUIRMIN VERMIN 84]

Congratulations on meeting someone who relates to you so well and has made you hopeful for a new future!
I really hope this works out well for you both!!

[NCC-1701]

Congratulations on moving on and fulfilling her wishes. Take it slow and see where it goes...






P.S. They are all nuts it just depends to what degree...

[OddBall]

As promised...




Eat yer hearts out

[SQUIRMIN VERMIN 84]

Very sweet looking lady!

Hope it all comes to be what you both want.

Thanks for sharing such a tender story.

[mrvette]

Originally Posted by OddBall

As promised...




Eat yer hearts out

U R overchicked........


edit, I looked again, and her pix there is in many ways similar to my wife's pix when standing on the beaches here in Florida, I glance up on the wall here, and same long curly hair, outdoor/water type scene, sun in face, and a grin....

[86RAG]

Congrats, both on drawing the courage to move on and hopefully finding someone to enjoy life with. Best of luck to you

[OddBall]

We went out to the "farm" late yesterday afternoon to take some pictures. She's into photography too. She's also into wine making, and she brought a bottle along that she had made. Well, it got too late to take any pictures so we just had the wine, spread a blanket in the field and just watched the fireflies and stars. Talked the night away and didn't get home till 4:00 this morning.
I might have stolen a kiss or two, or three...ahh hell, we made out like teenagers!

[Jeff '79]

Originally Posted by OddBall

We went out to the "farm" late yesterday afternoon to take some pictures. She's into photography too. She's also into wine making, and she brought a bottle along that she had made. Well, it got too late to take any pictures so we just had the wine, spread a blanket in the field and just watched the fireflies and stars. Talked the night away and didn't get home till 4:00 this morning.
I might have stolen a kiss or two, or three...ahh hell, we made out like teenagers!

You slut !

[Kerrmudgeon]

Originally Posted by OddBall

She has a brother, will that do?

...my names not Thomas!