Babies

[Mike Mercury]

So my friends wife REALLY wants to have a baby, it's really her only goal in life

be careful what you wish for.

[Petew1971]

He should consider himself the luckiest guy on the planet that he cant get his wife pregnant..babies will ruin your life

[Thud]

Methinks he doesn't really want kids and is using this as an excuse.

[sxeC6]

Originally Posted by Thud

Translation: he needs to step up soon before she goes to the sperm bank. I wonder how he feels about raising a kid that's not his?


If IVF is "playing God" then so is getting an epidural... technology exists, why not use it?

If he did feel like that, then it wouldn't make any more difference than if they adopted, which makes more sense.

[Giraffe (He/Him)]

Since I have no children of my own, I have no opinion. But if I WERE in this position, I would probably have an opinion. But I'm not, so I don't. It would be presumptuous of me to offer you any advice, in as much as I am not a parent, nor do I plan on ever becoming a parent.

[NCC-1701]

Originally Posted by HeatherO

this.

if they're meant to be parents, they will be...

IVF makes me think of Octoc*nt

[Giraffe (He/Him)]

IVF makes me think of Octoc*nt

Isn't she doing porn now?

[The_Dude]

Originally Posted by bsmith

I don't care what you think now...it changes when confronted with the problem in your life.

Exactly.

[OddBall]

Originally Posted by datawiz

Every person I've ever met who was conceived via IVF freaks out around Thanksgiving with all of the turkey basters running around.

[polarbear]

Originally Posted by VetteBoy1979

So my friends wife REALLY wants to have a baby, it's really her only goal in life, but they have been struggling for the last two years going through almost all the options. Now she wants to try IVF (in vitro) and he doesn't agree with that (feels it is too close to playing God). They are both Christians, but she feels that "by all means" she will have a child.

From the perspective of other Christians, do you agree with him, or do you feel it is ok to do IVF because God gave us this knowledge?

Comments/suggestions/experiences?

Just do what we did. After couple of years of trying (and visiting with a variety of professionals), I took the wife to Hawaii for three weeks. Figured not everyone is meant to have kids, so we'd figure out some other way to spend our time and our money.

Oldest was born about 9 months to the day after we got back. The next two were like falling off a log... then I figured out what caused it.

[MmaNDY]

As long as the couple is prepared for the cost & pain of IVF, I don't see why it couldn't be an option. We can look at birth control pills, condoms, fertility meds like Clomid, etc. as playing God. It's a slippery slope once you start thinking about it.

As an expectant mom, who has always wanted kids, I would be prepared to try most anything within reason. Luckily, I got pregnant with no problems the good, old-fashioned way. I don't believe, however, I would keep trying IVF multiple times. There would have to be a limit.

[Thud]

Originally Posted by TxAg

So biologically not the sperm donor.

In every other aspect, a real father and his child.

But not required to pay child support if he leaves her.

[ft laud mike]

Originally Posted by TxAg

Depends on how one defines this.

Originally Posted by Thud

Some other dude's genetic material.

[Joecooool]

I agree with the husband. But not for the same reason.

[LATB]

I'm a Christian and believe matters of conception should be left up to God.

[bsmith]

Originally Posted by LarsAtTheBeach

I'm a Christian and believe matters of conception should be left up to God.

So your wife was never on the pill, you never used any contraceptives, she never had her tubes tied and you were never snipped?

[CubSmurf]

Originally Posted by MmaNDY

As long as the couple is prepared for the cost & pain of IVF, I don't see why it couldn't be an option. We can look at birth control pills, condoms, fertility meds like Clomid, etc. as playing God. It's a slippery slope once you start thinking about it.

As an expectant mom, who has always wanted kids, I would be prepared to try most anything within reason. Luckily, I got pregnant with no problems the good, old-fashioned way. I don't believe, however, I would keep trying IVF multiple times. There would have to be a limit.

As the other half of this marriage, I agree we were lucky we got pregnant the old fashioned way. I have a friend who has been trying IVF for a while, and it's been nothing but stress for them. From 'trying' so hard to make it work, to finding the $$$ for the treatments. would be a hard choice to make.

[repo]

Originally Posted by bsmith

So your wife was never on the pill, you never used any contraceptives, she never had her tubes tied and you were never snipped?

Should have snipped his voice box and his fingers.

[TabuIsMe]

I'm not Christian but my aunt in law had IVF.
She has adorable twins thanks to that