Filipino pregnant - maybe

[thegreenman]

Originally Posted by Iron Chef

Assuming she is really pregnant, were you aware that she was not on birth control?

Yes, we both took some risks

[thegreenman]

Originally Posted by Dixievet

I hope that it all works out for you. I know we have talked and it is a crummy situation to be in right now, but this too may be another lie

I know it all could be a big lie, she is going to show me proof of everything, I insisted.

She knows how angry I was just from a small lie, any future lies or not telling me will be the end of the relationship.

We have been trying to get her to visit me in Germany, first visa attempt was denied.

[thegreenman]

Originally Posted by slewfoot

Shit, do what the Mexicans are doing. Get her ass over here to have the kid so it can be an automatic citizen.

Different for me, I am working in Germany right now so I have to get German approval to bring her here. Suppose to be easier to bring her here than the US.

[thegreenman]

Originally Posted by Mike Mercury

sounds like a reason to play-it-smart and keep the zipper zipped.

I know but those Filipino girls are very pretty

[thegreenman]

Originally Posted by DAB

" rebuild the trust"

based on what you have posted, that ship has sunk.

No, we chatted a long time today. The lie was a small lie, I have proof she lied and she was embarrassed she got caught in a lie as she knows I have a problem with being lied to. Since it was a small lie and she finally admitted to it I am given her another chance.

She knows if any future lie or not telling me something is the end.

[thegreenman]

Originally Posted by Hoog

2-1 odds she "loses the baby" prior to the DNA test.

I know, I have heard the stories

[thegreenman]

Originally Posted by aerovette

How are you submitting your DNA sample?

I found a company that she can go to in the Philippines and I can go to here in Germany, same company so that should work for both of us.

[thegreenman]

Originally Posted by Dixievet

Sounds like he may have already "submitted" it

Sorry GreenMan...there was a joke there waiting to be grabbed

No problem, I can still laugh about it.

[thegreenman]

Originally Posted by aerovette

They have to have a sample to compare to. Testing the baby does no good without yours to compare to.

I know, they can take the same here in Germany for the comparison

[thegreenman]

Originally Posted by Sea Six

Tell her the joke's on her- you already had a vasectomy years ago.

You'll never hear from her again.

she knows I am able, she made it clear she wants a baby with me but I wanted to wait until we were married first.

[thegreenman]

Originally Posted by Dixievet

Speaking of....I need to call and schedule my vasectomy

Since I dumped her for the small lie I was thinking about getting it done, but maybe a little to late now.

[thegreenman]

Originally Posted by NCC-1701

I finished my degree, never been married so I've kept all my stuff and have always kept my fish upstream...


To Greenman don't make a double mistake and get married. Remember a cheat and a liar will never change.

Waiting on the results of the pregnancy test then DNA if needed. It was a small lie but I agree a lie is a lie and I was wondering if there was others I didn't know about. As far as I know she never cheated on me but since she lied to me I cannot be sure.

She doesn't know how but I am monitoring here very closely. Scared her that I knew what she did to the minute, good enough information her entire family got scared of my abilities that all blocked me on facebook.

[thegreenman]

Originally Posted by Dixievet

I know, I was just making a joke. But I agree with Aero, is there a way that you can submit a sample locally and have the DNA results from her sent tom this side rather than the comparison being done over there?

My main concern is that you can pay off people really easy over there to get your way, depending on what kind of money she has access to, she might be able to buy a positive test results report.

That is where I am safe, she doesn't have money and her family cannot afford it, don't think they could swing a bribe like that.

[thegreenman]

Originally Posted by MrPeabody

Start shopping for a six bedroom house. I'm sure she has a large family.

Not large for the Philippines. She has one single sister but wants to keep her away from me, afraid of what the sister might try.

[thegreenman]

Originally Posted by OddBall

If a "small lie" was enough to tank the relationship, just how committed were you? Are you sure you weren't just looking for a way out?

To be honest, I am not sure, I am not a trusting person by nature so I was looking for something and thought I was done with her. Yesterday she dropped the possible pregnancy on me and I got really drunk but that didn't help.

I am cooling off so I can see what happens, if not pregnant or not mine I can decide. If my child I will do everything I can to do the right thing, to include marriage to be able to raise the child.

It isn't the potential kids fault to be brought into this world.

[thegreenman]

I think I responded to most, thanks for the advice now I need to wait and see before taken any action.

[Milton Fox]

Originally Posted by thegreenman

To be honest, I am not sure, I am not a trusting person by nature so I was looking for something and thought I was done with her. Yesterday she dropped the possible pregnancy on me and I got really drunk but that didn't help.

I am cooling off so I can see what happens, if not pregnant or not mine I can decide. If my child I will do everything I can to do the right thing, to include marriage to be able to raise the child.

It isn't the potential kids fault to be brought into this world.

Why impose yourself on this poor kid then? Unprotected sex, general mistrust, getting drunk, and having to cool off - is that fair to the child or the mother?

Get some help from a professional or a preacher if the kid turns out to be yours and if not yours get some help anyway.

[FasterTraffic]

Originally Posted by Milton Fox

Get some help from a professional or a preacher if the kid turns out to be yours and if not yours get some help anyway.

Or give the sister a call. But Milton's advice is good, too.

[thegreenman]

Originally Posted by Milton Fox

Why impose yourself on this poor kid then? Unprotected sex, general mistrust, getting drunk, and having to cool off - is that fair to the child or the mother?

Get some help from a professional or a preacher if the kid turns out to be yours and if not yours get some help anyway.

If my kid then I will raise it with the kids Mother, just the right thing to do, no issues will be brought up in front of the kid.

I have raised my Sons, they turned out very well so I must have done something right.

I don't need help, I get pissed off and might be a little hotheaded at times but I am good to go, no issues. US Government has trusted me to be stable for many years.

[thegreenman]

Originally Posted by FasterTraffic

Or give the sister a call. But Milton's advice is good, too.

No, the girlfriend is the good looking one, not the sister.

I have my inner circle for advice too. I like this group as you all lay it out as it is and don't hold back, I do appreciate and need that to help me decide.

The decisions and consequences will all be on me.

If I have a child on the way, raising the child will be first priority for me as it was with my now grown Son's with my now ex-wife.