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09-16-2011, 6:51pm | #41 | ||||||
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add to #1 Let the kids know right away they will not "play" you against the other parent. You and your spouse must come to some type of agreement on discipline or you will be done before you even start. add to #2 & #3 I let the kids know right away I was not there to replace their dad. I was their mom's new husband and was there to help them grow plus to support them. Things started out real shaky with myself and the "real" dad but I pulled him aside and explained that to him. After he saw ( thru my actions ) that I was truthful in that, we were friends. Good luck |
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a little more info for you guys. We have been dating for almost a year and a half. She's been divorced for a little over 2 years. Her daughter absolutely loves me to death, but i realize that can change. He dad is still a part of her life but he's a bare minimum kind of guy (long story, but that's a big reason they got divorced). He and I actually get along just fine, he's happy that i treat his little girl good.
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Chad, only you can determine what relationship you will have with the Mom and daughter. A year and a half should go a long way to determine that. You can't trust or know everything. That's part of the fun. The great unknown.
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Send me a PM if you want. I have 17 years experience as a step dad, but that's too much to type.
It's about an 80/20 good to bad ratio. |
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Chad.....You know I wish you the best of luck, and at least both of you don't have ex spouses and children, as that can be an even tougher situation. |
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I assume you watch enough TV shows, divorce court TV shows, divorced friends, family members and plenty of OT threads for you not to never ever adopt another man's child. If he is dead too bad.
Likely, you will divorce her anyway and then, you will have to pay child support for a kid that is not even yours. Besides, once she reaches the teenage years and you start imposing house rules the famous "you are not father" line will come up. frieds Id say 99% of them have kids; the other 1% "he" has the custody. |
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It gets hairy with the dad still in the picture. That was a complication for sure. Good luck to you. Don't wait like too long like I did. |
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09-17-2011, 7:58am | #54 | ||||||
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Every relationship comes with its set of problems and its potential for trouble. You just have to decide if this woman and her child are worth it, and if yes, take on whatever comes your way.
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