What do i get my future ex-wife for Christmas?

[ft laud mike]

Nothing, good terms or not, you two as a couple are through, would you give a random stranger on the street a gift?

[NCC-1701]

Originally Posted by NEED-A-VETTE

Totally agree with this.

You guys are getting divorced. Time to move on and make your own lives. She needs to find her own way, Deej. I mean...just how long are you supposed to keep this up? For every forthcoming holiday?

If she wants to spend the holidays with family, let her fly out to her own family or they can fly to see her. Not on your dime. You're perpetuating and encouraging an emotional dependency. Not a good scene.

In the end, standing firm with breaking the emotional ties is actually kinder. Playing house, so to speak, under the guise of "it's the holidays" is actually going to cause more harm than good. May even be downright cruel, when all is said and done. It may seem like a kind gesture, but it's going to cause problems down the road.

Send her a Christmas card wishing her a Merry Christmas. Done.

Excellent post...

[xXBUDXx]

I don't know your situation, but speaking from experience, cut your ties and move on.

[Sea Six]

Originally Posted by xXBUDXx

I don't know your situation, but speaking from experience, cut your ties and move on.

Excellent advice.


I just LOVE a good tie-cutting gag.

[Broken Wind]

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[wesmigletz]

Originally Posted by xXBUDXx

I don't know your situation, but speaking from experience, cut your ties and move on.

I gotta agree with the above.

[Cybercowboy]

Originally Posted by NEED-A-VETTE

Totally agree with this.

You guys are getting divorced. Time to move on and make your own lives. She needs to find her own way, Deej. I mean...just how long are you supposed to keep this up? For every forthcoming holiday?

If she wants to spend the holidays with family, let her fly out to her own family or they can fly to see her. Not on your dime. You're perpetuating and encouraging an emotional dependency. Not a good scene.

In the end, standing firm with breaking the emotional ties is actually kinder. Playing house, so to speak, under the guise of "it's the holidays" is actually going to cause more harm than good. May even be downright cruel, when all is said and done. It may seem like a kind gesture, but it's going to cause problems down the road.

Send her a Christmas card wishing her a Merry Christmas. Done.

[Iron Chef]

Originally Posted by NEED-A-VETTE

If she wants to spend the holidays with family, let her fly out to her own family or they can fly to see her. Not on your dime.

I disagree. I would be happy to buy my ex a plane ticket to see her family.

If her family were in Siberia.

[DJ_Critterus]

Thanks for your advice all, but this thread was meant to be a smart ass little joke and no need to delve deep down into the Dear Abbey archives.

It is what it is between my wife (for now) and me. It was my decision to bring her here for Christmas since I do know how lonely it is this time of year without anybody to spend the holiday with. I've read all of your advice (thanks) and I am sticking with my decision. No, we will probably never get back together whatsoever, but she has been a part of my life for the last decade and I do hate to lose that. I'd rather have a friend at the end and call it a day.

:wave:
/DJ

[tshirts and jeans]

dj.....i agree...she is using you and you are letting her....... this keeps both of you (or at least the one that still cares) thinking that there may be something down the road.......

you are not being mean by not buying her a plane ticket to florida......i am sure that she has friends in texas that she can spend the holidays with......and if she doesn't then she needs new and better friends........living in a military town, i am quite sure that there are folks not getting to go home to family for christmas......

my ex does get my grandgirl and daughters gifts for christmas but he does not get me anything....nor do i want him to.....but we were married 17 years so he does have an attachment to the kids.....

as hard as it may be for you or her .......you are not doin either of you a favor by continuing to do things like this......no matter how sweet or nice she may be.......move on