Teach me, how to live without worry......

[Wathen1955]

[Torqaholic]

Stress is a killer and your death would be a permanent solution to a temporary problem because everything else is temporary.

[Moond0ggie]

This article could be helpful....https://www.raptitude.com/2014/07/not-giving-a-shit/

Also the AA Big Book describes the cause of over drinking(self medicating) is linked to caring so much about getting your way,
that you get blown out when things out of your control happen .
The main tenent is to stop worring about things out of our control & turn your cares over to God .
I think this is addressed within the first 5 chapters .....You dont have to be an alky for the information to help .
https://www.aa.org/the-big-book

A snipet> https://www.aa.org/sites/default/fil...ook_chapt5.pdf

read from the bottom third of pg 60 thru 1st third of pg 63 ....see if anything resonates .

[Don Rickles]

Originally Posted by slewfoot

Wake up every morning surprised. By the way, how's your blood pressure?

Hmmmm, I WAS a 120/80 BP my entire life, until drinking.....now 150/92....shhhh don't tell the Mrs.

[Rob]

Originally Posted by Don Rickles

Will the worrying ever end? Tricks, tips and secrets???

Turn off the tv.

[GTOguy]

Originally Posted by Don Rickles

Not worry about myself. I worry about my wife, my kids, my new grandson......I worry about dying and not having done enough to care for them all. My grandfather passed away way back in 1968, he was a very good man, worked hard, raised his children, worshipped the lord, etc. a good person. BUT after he died there wasn't enough money to pay the house expenses, my Gmom had to move into a shit apartment.....Then they started talking shit about him....An entire life of good, then boom overnight being bad mouthed.

I can't allow this, I just can't....

I worry....

You're neurotic. It's normal to feel bad about a situation like your Grandmother's, but worrying about events that MAY happen to random people you will not be in control of after you are gone is wasted energy and focus. You do the best you can, for the people you love, while you can. Period. No regerts.

[Giraffe (He/Him)]

Originally Posted by DAB

Worrying is a sin, it’s not trusting God to provide and protect you.

Typical. Oh so typical.

[Don Rickles]

Originally Posted by GTOguy

You're neurotic. It's normal to feel bad about a situation like your Grandmother's, but worrying about events that MAY happen to random people you will not be in control of after you are gone is wasted energy and focus. You do the best you can, for the people you love, while you can. Period. No regerts.

No, according to the definition, I'm not.

My family is far from random and my lives work shall not go down in vain. I do kinda agree with DAB. I haven't found the contentment to allow God to take over and just be OK....Now my wife has, and she seems to be worry free about her future, this helps me a bit. I wish I could follow her with this calmness about old age or getting older....

Not having the strength, the stamina, the fading power, all plays on my mind...Now, don't misunderstand, I'm strong for my age and told this often, just not who I was a few years ago.

I guess for some, it's easier than others.

I worry

[Onebadcad]

Throw your cell phone in lake.
Do not allow relatives at the house.
Only dine at steakhouses.
No more TV, except for car shows.
Avoid doctors when wise.
DO NOT become a dolphins fan.
Thank yourself daily for all you do for others.

[GTOguy]

Originally Posted by Don Rickles

No, according to the definition, I'm not.

My family is far from random and my lives work shall not go down in vain. I do kinda agree with DAB. I haven't found the contentment to allow God to take over and just be OK....Now my wife has, and she seems to be worry free about her future, this helps me a bit. I wish I could follow her with this calmness about old age or getting older....

Not having the strength, the stamina, the fading power, all plays on my mind...Now, don't misunderstand, I'm strong for my age and told this often, just not who I was a few years ago.

I guess for some, it's easier than others.

I worry

I wish I was the man I was 10 years ago. I'm not. It is what it is. Lee Marvin once said: "Don't worry about the things you can no longer do. Be grateful that you no longer have to do them, and be thankful for the things you still can do."

[Ronins2ndCuzzin]

Only care about the 4 F's. Everything else is nothing to even give a second thought about.

1) Feed
2) Finance
3) Fornicate
4) Family

If they don't feed ya, finance ya, **** ya, and they're not family...they are insignificant in your life. That will at least narrow down your field of "give a shit."

[donuts]

Originally Posted by Don Rickles

Not worry about myself. I worry about my wife, my kids, my new grandson......I worry about dying and not having done enough to care for them all. My grandfather passed away way back in 1968, he was a very good man, worked hard, raised his children, worshipped the lord, etc. a good person. BUT after he died there wasn't enough money to pay the house expenses, my Gmom had to move into a shit apartment.....Then they started talking shit about him....An entire life of good, then boom overnight being bad mouthed.

I can't allow this, I just can't....

I worry....

Do you think he’s worried about that ? If he’s as good of a man as you perceived then he did all he could do for his family. ….????

Your peace of mind today is the most important thing for everyone in your life. Money is further down the list BUT it’s a byproduct of the level of peace in your life.

[donuts]

Originally Posted by Moond0ggie

This article could be helpful....https://www.raptitude.com/2014/07/not-giving-a-shit/

Also the AA Big Book describes the cause of over drinking(self medicating) is linked to caring so much about getting your way,
that you get blown out when things out of your control happen .
The main tenent is to stop worring about things out of our control & turn your cares over to God .
I think this is addressed within the first 5 chapters .....You dont have to be an alky for the information to help .
https://www.aa.org/the-big-book

A snipet> https://www.aa.org/sites/default/fil...ook_chapt5.pdf

read from the bottom third of pg 60 thru 1st third of pg 63 ....see if anything resonates .

Al-Anon materials are so valuable and effective. If a person takes the time to study them each day they will become worry free and relatively unfazed by what life throws at them .

[Torqaholic]

Originally Posted by Rob

Turn off the tv.

Do better than that, get rid of it completely.

[Giraffe (He/Him)]

Originally Posted by Don Rickles

Will the worrying ever end?

Nope. You can't nor will you ever be able to. You're wired to worry. I worry about a lot of shit too but what works for me is this; Today, everyone is OK. The bills are paid, (By me not God ) and everyone I give a shit about is healthy and doing OK.

Tomorrow it may be different but today it's OK.

[LATB]

Originally Posted by GTOguy

I wish I was the man I was 10 years ago. I'm not. It is what it is. Lee Marvin once said: "Don't worry about the things you can no longer do. Be grateful that you no longer have to do them, and be thankful for the things you still can do."

I feel blessed every day to have the strength and knowledge to do what I can do. And I’m not a giant man at 5-8 165
Probably have 99% of my strength but I get tired and have to take breaks. I live with joint and muscle pain everyday. And when I get out of bed in the morning it takes a little while to get going.

I also believe as DAB does that it’s all in God’s hands. When I worship Him in my deeds and actions and praise His blessings on me, I find that the day is a good one. And if I’m an ass, he lets me know that too.

[Giraffe (He/Him)]

Originally Posted by GTOguy

Lee Marvin once said: "Don't worry about the things you can no longer do. Be grateful that you no longer have to do them, and be thankful for the things you still can do."

My grandmother LOVED her rose garden. As far back as I can remember she was tending to her roses. I remember visiting her one day and commenting on her flowers, or more accurately lack of. 'I just can't physically do it anymore.' She wasn't really sad, she had just accepted this was something she could no longer do in her early 80s.

I remember thinking this woman had balls the size of King Kong. She could no longer do something she absolutely loved, accepted it, and did what she could. I'm sure some of this wisdom comes with 80+ birthdays. Physical limitations come on slowly. She didn't wake up one morning and suddenly find herself physically unable.

I'm not old enough to have hit that wall yet. Given my unnecessarily stubborn personality, I don't see resignation as a viable response.

[Raazor]

Originally Posted by Don Rickles

Not worry about myself. I worry about my wife, my kids, my new grandson......I worry about dying and not having done enough to care for them all. My grandfather passed away way back in 1968, he was a very good man, worked hard, raised his children, worshipped the lord, etc. a good person. BUT after he died there wasn't enough money to pay the house expenses, my Gmom had to move into a shit apartment.....Then they started talking shit about him....An entire life of good, then boom overnight being bad mouthed.

I can't allow this, I just can't....

I worry....

Only broke-ass Libs care about themselves. Learn to manage your worry. You have to work at it

Good luck

[dwjz06]

Originally Posted by Don Rickles

Not worry about myself. I worry about my wife, my kids, my new grandson......I worry about dying and not having done enough to care for them all. My grandfather passed away way back in 1968, he was a very good man, worked hard, raised his children, worshipped the lord, etc. a good person. BUT after he died there wasn't enough money to pay the house expenses, my Gmom had to move into a shit apartment.....Then they started talking shit about him....An entire life of good, then boom overnight being bad mouthed.

I can't allow this, I just can't....

I worry....

If they talk shit about a good man. Just imagine if he was a shitty one? You will not worry when you are dead right? Those people are adults or will be right? Up to them to make there way in life. Nothing wrong with trying to help, but not your problem when you are gone. My dad had to drum this into me. I thought much like you for many years. I was a provider for 40 years. I have to take care of me now. No one stepping up to drop me a bunch of money or a better life. Think about that. worrying does not change the outcome.

[roadpilot]

"Pain is a reality, suffering is a choice". Rabbi Asher Resnick