Divorced guys...Question

[island14]

Originally Posted by Yamma

With me ex-fiance - it was this.......I can totally relate. And it was hell.


Marriage isn't easy - there are ups and downs, days of joy and days of frustration. If you don't take the time to listen to what your spouse is saying and feeling, that's when issues can arise. It's extremely hard some days to put someone else's life and feelings in front of your own......but it just takes patience and respect.

OP, I wish you luck......hoping things work out for the best.

My wife is so simple, and easy to please (most of the time) yeah we argue sometimes, but at the end of the day we both know we are happy and blessed to have found each other.

For what it is worth...

I see a lot of your and Dixie's post and can almost feel the love between you two from 8000 miles away.

Your romantic Valentines Day outings to White castle, Lady Gaga parties, neighbors calling you to tell you that your hubby is on their roof? ect, ect, ect....

I really hope to meet you both someday..

[Yerf Dog]

Originally Posted by DukeAllen

Seems to me you have two choices. Counseling or split up. No need to be miserable for life.

This may be a case where counseling could work.

Divorce sucks. It really sucks.

[dwjz06]

Originally Posted by aerovette

Of all of the posts, the ones expressing a feeling of dread when you hear them come home, and of relief when they are not there, are the most accurate and sum up the situation quite well. I am sure that applies to both of us. We have above all, lost respect for each other. Tha is major. A HUGE part of me regrets putting this on the "www", but outside feedback is good to hear and Dear Abbey stopped responding after she died .

She is a beautiful, wonderful person and I am hard to put up with, cynical and selfish. I hoped that when we got together, she would remove my rough edge and make me a better person, instead, I think I have managed to be the bigger influence and have made her a bitter person.

I think we both have "checked out" and are simply going through the motions. We have become room-mates...and poor ones at that.

Sorry to hear man. But should the divorce go down I got dibs on any unposties you may have lying around I hope that gave you a chuckle! It's a shit sammich no matter what for everyone. Best of luck if you go that route.

[Cybercowboy]

Originally Posted by Thomas

Don't be sorry. It was a lifetime ago.

It was some guy from the bar I'd never seen before. I didn't say a word. I saw what I needed to see and walked out. For good.

My brother was married to a woman who at first I really liked, she seemed good for him and she was a hard worker. She had a son from a previous marriage who was OK until his father died in a motorcycle accident, then he really began acting out and their marriage began to take a beating too. Then my brother began telling me that his wife would go out with her coworkers after work and didn't want him to be there, as it was "just my girlfriends". Except it wasn't just girls, it was guys too.

When he told me this I told him "Well, you're screwed. She's nailing some dude, there's no doubt about it." Number one warning sign of affairs is the cheater telling the other spouse that they are not welcome to these get-togethers. Period. Oh, and she got a boob job. My brother thought that was really cool. I just shook my head.

He didn't believe me, her behavior got to be more and more blatant, and then one day he came home way early from work for some reason, saw some strange car in the driveway, walked around to the back yard to get something or other, glanced in his living room window, and saw his wife giving some dude a blow job.

What really pissed him off is that she'd hardly ever give him a BJ, even right after they got married. When he told me that I really gave him a ration, telling him that shit doesn't fly!

He got divorced and was way too nice to the bitch. She knew better than to show her skank face around me again.

[Giraffe (He/Him)]

Try Butt Secks. My ex loved it apparently.

[island14]

Originally Posted by Thomas

Try Butt Secks. My ex loved it apparently.

In the middle of this sad story at least there is still some humor

[Cybercowboy]

Originally Posted by Thomas

Try Butt Secks. My ex loved it apparently.

One time my business partner and his wife and I were at a bar in Wrigleyville, sitting kind of in a back room that wasn't too crowded watching a Cubs game on the big TV back there. We were drinking beers and somehow the subject of butt sex came up. Now my partner's wife is a smoking hot Baltimore babe, and she says "Oh, I love that! I make him do it to me at least once a month." My partner kind of sighs, signalling that indeed he does but isn't really in to it. She goes on and on about how awesome it is and how all her girlfriends love it and make their guys do it.

Then she asks me if my wife and I like it. I answered honestly "Not so much...", which at the time was the truth, and she was really working me over, threatening to call my wife and talk to her about this.

Anyway, I was so engrossed in this conversation I had failed to notice the four gay dudes that were seated near our table. All four were intently listening to her talk about taking it up the ass and loving it. I nudged my business partner and said "Uh..." His wife turns to them and says "Am I right?"

I cracked up. They cracked up. You had to be there, but it was awesome.

[simpleman68]

Originally Posted by Cybercowboy

One time my business partner and his wife and I were at a bar in Wrigleyville, sitting kind of in a back room that wasn't too crowded watching a Cubs game on the big TV back there. We were drinking beers and somehow the subject of butt sex came up. Now my partner's wife is a smoking hot Baltimore babe, and she says "Oh, I love that! I make him do it to me at least once a month." My partner kind of sighs, signalling that indeed he does but isn't really in to it. She goes on and on about how awesome it is and how all her girlfriends love it and make their guys do it.

Then she asks me if my wife and I like it. I answered honestly "Not so much...", which at the time was the truth, and she was really working me over, threatening to call my wife and talk to her about this.

Anyway, I was so engrossed in this conversation I had failed to notice the four gay dudes that were seated near our table. All four were intently listening to her talk about taking it up the ass and loving it. I nudged my business partner and said "Uh..." His wife turns to them and says "Am I right?"

I cracked up. They cracked up. You had to be there, but it was awesome.

That sheit is funny
Scott

[jaxgator]

Originally Posted by Cybercowboy

One time my business partner and his wife and I were at a bar in Wrigleyville, sitting kind of in a back room that wasn't too crowded watching a Cubs game on the big TV back there. We were drinking beers and somehow the subject of butt sex came up. Now my partner's wife is a smoking hot Baltimore babe, and she says "Oh, I love that! I make him do it to me at least once a month." My partner kind of sighs, signalling that indeed he does but isn't really in to it. She goes on and on about how awesome it is and how all her girlfriends love it and make their guys do it.

Then she asks me if my wife and I like it. I answered honestly "Not so much...", which at the time was the truth, and she was really working me over, threatening to call my wife and talk to her about this.

Anyway, I was so engrossed in this conversation I had failed to notice the four gay dudes that were seated near our table. All four were intently listening to her talk about taking it up the ass and loving it. I nudged my business partner and said "Uh..." His wife turns to them and says "Am I right?"

I cracked up. They cracked up. You had to be there, but it was awesome.

Hilarious story!

[Giraffe (He/Him)]

I answered honestly "Not so much...", which at the time was the truth,

And now?

BTW? That is a funny story.

[Cybercowboy]

Originally Posted by Thomas

And now?

BTW? That is a funny story.

[island14]

My Ex swore to me when we split up that she was going to f'ck all of my buddies..

And prolly did do most of them..

And why I decided the other side of the planet was as far as I could go to get away from that skank..

[Sea Six]

This thread delivers.

[Ms.Gem]

Originally Posted by Cybercowboy

I cracked up. They cracked up. You had to be there, but it was awesome.

[syf350]

Originally Posted by Cybercowboy

One time my business partner and his wife and I were at a bar in Wrigleyville, sitting kind of in a back room that wasn't too crowded watching a Cubs game on the big TV back there. We were drinking beers and somehow the subject of butt sex came up. Now my partner's wife is a smoking hot Baltimore babe, and she says "Oh, I love that! I make him do it to me at least once a month." My partner kind of sighs, signalling that indeed he does but isn't really in to it. She goes on and on about how awesome it is and how all her girlfriends love it and make their guys do it.

Then she asks me if my wife and I like it. I answered honestly "Not so much...", which at the time was the truth, and she was really working me over, threatening to call my wife and talk to her about this.

Anyway, I was so engrossed in this conversation I had failed to notice the four gay dudes that were seated near our table. All four were intently listening to her talk about taking it up the ass and loving it. I nudged my business partner and said "Uh..." His wife turns to them and says "Am I right?"

I cracked up. They cracked up. You had to be there, but it was awesome.

no pun intended?

[syf350]

Originally Posted by SteelCityBlue

do tell

tell what? that pretty much sums it all up

[Aerovette]

Originally Posted by ConstantChange

How long have you two been married? How long has the roommate feeling been going on?

5 -1/2 years and 5-1/2 years.

Once we moved in to the same house, I lost who I am. I have no voice, no leverage, no input. I am a ghost. A tenant in my own house.

We have been together since 95 but marriage did something.

[7125]

after 20 years she came to me and said i do not love you i asked who she was talking to you
it broke me did n ot see it comeing 2 weeks ripped my heart out then a light went off maybe i was not happy either we did the sepertion on line together had it made legel i bought hear a donut she left me and my son in driveway wavying good bye she been her for dinner and our son almost ever night
she sign the house over to me i take care of our 13 son 24 /7 which i love to do . after the 2 weeks things have got better i have been on 4 dates she watches our son we are friends we even talk about who iam dateing there was nobody esle in my live or hers and still nobody in hers but i had to move on she does not have a real place of her own she is staying with a girl friend
we had easter together with grandchildern and all
its different but we did not fight and still do not its working out great i guess
this started on feb 4 2013 so 2 months into it i have a better live i guess
i join a dateing site
not into the bar thing meet some great woman
gabe

[Giraffe (He/Him)]

Originally Posted by 7125

after 20 years she came to me and said i do not love you i asked who she was talking to you
it broke me did n ot see it comeing 2 weeks ripped my heart out then a light went off maybe i was not happy either we did the sepertion on line together had it made legel i bought hear a donut she left me and my son in driveway wavying good bye she been her for dinner and our son almost ever night
she sign the house over to me i take care of our 13 son 24 /7 which i love to do . after the 2 weeks things have got better i have been on 4 dates she watches our son we are friends we even talk about who iam dateing there was nobody esle in my live or hers and still nobody in hers but i had to move on she does not have a real place of her own she is staying with a girl friend
we had easter together with grandchildern and all
its different but we did not fight and still do not its working out great i guess
this started on feb 4 2013 so 2 months into it i have a better live i guess
i join a dateing site
not into the bar thing meet some great woman
gabe

Thats quite a story gabe sounds eveything is going a lot better now that your on a dateing site I wouldnt wanna be out their on the dateing scene these days no way two many crazy woman out their thats for sure its even cool you too get along now and can talk about whats going on without killing each other my ex and I never talk its been over 16 years and I fine with the way it all worked out.

[Sea Six]