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04-26-2021, 6:43am | #1 | ||||||
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Well, the divorce keeps getting more painful.
Just when I think things are about to be over, my soon to be ex hits me with something else. Here is a little background. I gave up an active duty career so she could finish her masters and have HER career. Our marriage was never great, but I suffered through it for way too many years. We have a house that was (almost) paid for. Behind my back, she ran up 42k in credit card debt. So trying to do what I thought was the right thing, I let her get a home equity loan on said amount. I'm not on the loan, but had to sign because I was on the deed.
I also agreed to give her $750 a month in child support and we will have joint custody. My youngest son is 17. I also agreed to give her the house and the rest of the equity. Roughly 50-70k and the furniture. Also, take in mind that she makes more money than me. I also agreed to give her 30% of my .mil retirement, and this morning, she says she wants 50%. I just sort of wanted to take my stuff and leave, but she keeps wanting to gut me. I already agreed to sign off on taking me off the deed, and giving her the house, but this is a deal breaker. The finance company is badgering me, but I have not signed any paperwork. I have also continued to pay her car insurance, but that ends as of today. I may have been one shitty husband, but no way in hell do I deserve what she is trying to put me through. I am about to the end of my rope... |
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Sounds like she should pay you alimony if made more... Just saying.
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**** her.
She is ****ing you because she is listening to her lawyer. Greedy ****. Time to go to war. |
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Joint custody and **** that child support ad well.
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Hope things get better for you,I have seen this many times where the guy tries to do what he thinks is right but gets ****ed many times over.....not sure what I would do .
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Let the lawyers hash it out. Sounds like she is taking advantage of you during this hard time.
Hang in there. Divorce was one of the, if not the worst, experiences of my life. |
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I’m not understanding, did you retire from the reserves or AD? Not sure how your state treats men in divorce but I’d fight for every inch.
It’s been awhile since I’ve been through a breakup but I remember it being very painful and then relieving as f*ck. Hang in there, it will get better. |
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Turn into the bastard she imagines you are and fight for every little thing. Withdraw 100% of your concessions and tell her lawyer it's time to start over. Crater your credit rating and lose the house if need be, then demand alimony from her and repayment of the money you spent on her loans. If the youngest kid is 17, suffer out the year left until they are an adult and don't worry about custody.
The best defense is always a counter attack. Lawyers are used to getting the upper hand and exploiting it. When you go sideways they start to see the case as a time-wasting losing proposition and often will settle far cheaper than when they think they are in control. |
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Scorched earth.
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Let @Knooger pack her in the peanut pouch.....she gonna learn today!
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This is a very common tactic if they feel you are getting anxious to finalize the divorce. They try to get a big concession out of you, holding the carrot of the pain reaching its end. Financially, it would be better to gut it out until the youngest child turns 18, if you can stand it. Either way, I would respond harshly, and say that she can have 50% of the retirement, but then you get 50% of the cash assets (sounds like you are getting substantially less), and you get a portion of the amount her income exceeds yours as alimony. |
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I’m not sure how it is in your state but in MN you own half of that $42k debt. Marital asset I’m afraid.
Example; I purchased my H-D Limited while we were married. I financed the entire thing and her name wasn’t on the title. It was considered a marital asset. Again, this is just MN; she’s entitled to 50% of your pension/retirement. And you’re entitled to 50% of hers. (That’s just pension piece) What you did to further her career has *zero* value in the eyes of the court. “I gave up a promising career as a Llama Rider so she could get her Basket Weaving PhD” is irrelevant. Now some completely unsolicited advice; “This is ****in’ WAR!” is expensive and harder on you than you could ever imagine. I’m not advocating you cave into all her demands but give careful consideration to what it’s gonna cost you in lawyer fees to retain that $500.00 ice auger. |
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Yup,scorched earth time and if your lawyer is a ***** fire him and find a bull dog.
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friend of mine... couldn't get his future ex to agree to anything for the divorce because she kept saying
"I want the house... I want the house" The home they were in had no sizeable equity, loan value was near what the place was worth. He finally caved in; she got the house and she had to get a mortgage on her own. 3 years later the house went into foreclosure. To her friends, she blamed losing the house on the divorce agreement; saying: "I got stuck with the house" |
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As for spousal maintenance? HIGHLY unlikely. He’s not a stay at home dad, both parties work. She could possibly ask for it temporarily while the divorce is in progress, but so can he. |
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