What do i get my future ex-wife for Christmas?

[DJ_Critterus]

No, we are not on hatred terms and we are on very friendly terms believe it or not.

Somebody suggested i get her something she can drive.

GREAT IDEA!

A pack of golf balls it is!

[lander]

Careful, she might shank you with them.

[DJ_Critterus]

Originally Posted by lander

Careful, she might shank you with them.

Nah. Apparently she can drive them straight now. I'll stand in the woods where my ball lands and be safe since she cares more about hitting the fairway, it seems. Hell, sounds like she's a lot better at it than I am. We'll see in DEC if it's not too cold (yes, my family is the only family she has here int he states, so I am flying her here for Christmas). i still can't be mean to her even against advice of what some of my friends say i should do and she isn't being mean trying to fukk me over either. It's not like her to do that.

[Blademaker]

[mrvette]

Originally Posted by DJ_Critterus

No, we are not on hatred terms and we are on very friendly terms believe it or not.

Somebody suggested i get her something she can drive.

GREAT IDEA!

A pack of golf balls it is!

Let someone else buy them, that way they not be YOUR balls......

[kingpin]

Originally Posted by DJ_Critterus

Nah. Apparently she can drive them straight now. I'll stand in the woods where my ball lands and be safe since she cares more about hitting the fairway, it seems. Hell, sounds like she's a lot better at it than I am. We'll see in DEC if it's not too cold (yes, my family is the only family she has here int he states, so I am flying her here for Christmas). i still can't be mean to her nobody what some of my friends say i should do and she isn't being mean trying to fukk me over either. It's not like her to do that.

Her boyfriend probably showed her.

[SteelCityBlue]

hmmm.the only divorce in vette barn history to end amicably.

ok! off to buy powerball tickets.

[DJ_Critterus]

Originally Posted by kingpin

Her boyfriend probably showed her.

Ehhh... not in the picture and no B/F for her. Don't ask me how i know, but I am positive I know the correct info.

[DJ_Critterus]

Originally Posted by SteelCityBlue

hmmm.the only divorce in vette barn history to end amicably.

ok! off to buy powerball tickets.

I bought mine. Dude behind the counter guaranteed i had the right numbers. I'm going to chock the shit outta him if he's wrong and i told him that.

[kingpin]

Originally Posted by DJ_Critterus

Ehhh... not in the picture and no B/F for her. Don't ask me how i know, but I am positive I know the correct info.

Pics of her lesbian lover?

[xXBUDXx]

Originally Posted by DJ_Critterus

I bought mine. Dude behind the counter guaranteed i had the right numbers. I'm going to chock the shit outta him if he's wrong and i told him that.

There is nothing worse than a good chocking.

[lspencer534]

Originally Posted by DJ_Critterus

Nah. Apparently she can drive them straight now. I'll stand in the woods where my ball lands and be safe since she cares more about hitting the fairway, it seems. Hell, sounds like she's a lot better at it than I am. We'll see in DEC if it's not too cold (yes, my family is the only family she has here int he states, so I am flying her here for Christmas). i still can't be mean to her even against advice of what some of my friends say i should do and she isn't being mean trying to fukk me over either. It's not like her to do that.

Since I seem to be a lot of peep's "Dad" around here, I'd like to offer my 2 cents worth. "Not being mean to her" does not include flying her to see you and your family at Christmas. You two are divorced. That means it's time to get on with your separate lives; that is what at least one of you chose to do.

Two things: First, it is not fair to her for you to lead her on if you decided to end the marriage. It is equally unfair of her to lead you on if she made that decision. One of you still cares a lot (too much) about the other person. Both of you need to decide NOW WTF you're doing. No good can come of pretending it isn't over. The divorce said it was over.

I'm leery of peeps marrying the same person again. Very rarely does it work out. Very rarely. And if it doesn't work out, there will be some nastiness. And meanness.

[DAB]

i'm not flying anywhere.

and when i do fly, i buy my own ticket.

[GentleBen]

Originally Posted by lspencer534

I'm leery of peeps marrying the same person again. Very rarely does it work out. Very rarely. And if it doesn't work out, there will be some nastiness. And meanness.

Well, I had an uncle who divorced his wife. After several years both he and his ex married other people and then subsequently divorced their new spouse. A couple of years passed and my uncle and his first wife re-marry. As you said, they did divorce again. Finally, they figured it out - they loved each other but could not stand to live with each other.

Their solution? They bought adjoining town houses so that when they were tired of each other they had their own space apart. Worked for them. . .

[lspencer534]

Originally Posted by GentleBen

Well, I had an uncle who divorced his wife. After several years both he and his ex married other people and then subsequently divorced their new spouse. A couple of years passed and my uncle and his first wife re-marry. As you said, they did divorce again. Finally, they figured it out - they loved each other but could not stand to live with each other.

Their solution? They bought adjoining town houses so that when they were tired of each other they had their own space apart. Worked for them. . .

Re-marrying the same person is like opening the milk in the refirigerator, smelling it and determining it's bad, then sticking it back in the fridge and saying, "Oh, well; maybe it'll be better tomorrow...."

[Bill]

Originally Posted by DJ_Critterus

I bought mine. Dude behind the counter guaranteed i had the right numbers. I'm going to chock the shit outta him if he's wrong and i told him that.

Safety first.

[Allan]

Originally Posted by lspencer534

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I'm leery of peeps marrying the same person again. Very rarely does it work out. Very rarely. And if it doesn't work out, there will be some nastiness. And meanness.

I worked for a guy that was marrried 5 times. 2 women 2x's each.

During an in-service training, someone called him out and said "Harry, you've put more women in houses than HUD." The entire room broke up laughing.

Harry got pissed. Real pissed. He then walked out as he was about to explode. Harry was a ranking officer.

[NEED-A-VETTE]

Originally Posted by lspencer534

Since I seem to be a lot of peep's "Dad" around here, I'd like to offer my 2 cents worth. "Not being mean to her" does not include flying her to see you and your family at Christmas. You two are divorced. That means it's time to get on with your separate lives; that is what at least one of you chose to do.

Two things: First, it is not fair to her for you to lead her on if you decided to end the marriage. It is equally unfair of her to lead you on if she made that decision. One of you still cares a lot (too much) about the other person. Both of you need to decide NOW WTF you're doing. No good can come of pretending it isn't over. The divorce said it was over.

I'm leery of peeps marrying the same person again. Very rarely does it work out. Very rarely. And if it doesn't work out, there will be some nastiness. And meanness.

Totally agree with this.

You guys are getting divorced. Time to move on and make your own lives. She needs to find her own way, Deej. I mean...just how long are you supposed to keep this up? For every forthcoming holiday?

If she wants to spend the holidays with family, let her fly out to her own family or they can fly to see her. Not on your dime. You're perpetuating and encouraging an emotional dependency. Not a good scene.

In the end, standing firm with breaking the emotional ties is actually kinder. Playing house, so to speak, under the guise of "it's the holidays" is actually going to cause more harm than good. May even be downright cruel, when all is said and done. It may seem like a kind gesture, but it's going to cause problems down the road.

Send her a Christmas card wishing her a Merry Christmas. Done.

[island14]

Originally Posted by Blademaker

This is a nice idea!


Even if you both are on good terms, she will appreciate the humor in it..

[island14]

Originally Posted by lspencer534

Re-marrying the same person is like opening the milk in the refirigerator, smelling it and determining it's bad, then sticking it back in the fridge and saying, "Oh, well; maybe it'll be better tomorrow...."

Spoke like a true professional


I'm guessing in your line of work you have more experiences than any of us gained from your clients divorces.