I admit it. I'm weak. I'm a broken person

[boracayjohnny]

Dude, Mike is blunt but that's it. Move on.

Delete FB, post less here, and hit the gym. There were plenty of week nights I would go three hours in the gym. I also went hiking, biking, and hung out with friends. Further, I got plenty of compliments and even got hit on while in the gym. Crazy right? I'm just an average dude. The less you think about shitty situations, the less you're in shitty situations.

Life is weird. Be weird back.

[simpleman68]

Originally Posted by Iron Chef

I may make tons of enemies for this, and I really don’t care. I’m not terribly patient nor do I suffer fools easily.

I went through a nasty divorce. I went through sad periods. I was lonely. You know what I did? Got my ass offline and got into work, school, the gym, etc. I joined sports leagues, a car club or two. Took up golf. Went hiking locally. I went to see a counselor. Plenty of singles activities in every city. I was given a prescription for some short term meds to help my head shake off the cobwebs, allow me to sleep and get me through the day. In other words, I KEPT BUSY. Eight years later I’m on top of the world. I’m not dating anyone and you know what? I’m just fine with that. Because I am happy with ME.

You know what I didn’t do? Sat on a ****ing car forum and repeatedly whined about my bad luck and miserable life to the same 25 people. Nor did I make excuses as to why I won't like this person or why that counselor is useless. Today is Saturday. Why the hell are you here posting? I almost never log on during the weekends. I’m out doing things. You’re here every goddamn day. Look at my post history. My last 20 posts stretch back to December. Your last 20 posts go to back four days. What does that tell you?

And I have news for you...people might give you polite responses to be kind, but in their heads they’re saying “oh not this shit again.” As much as they may like you, people eventually stop feeling sorry for those whom they perceive aren’t doing enough to (or don’t want to) help themselves. There must be half a dozen threads you started about how miserable you are and what should you do. And we’ve all told you. And now another thread. Seriously??? Are you dying of cancer?? If you’re not, your problems are miniscule.

Your ex is gone. You know that. Not only do you know that, WE know that. 20 times over we know that. She doesn’t want to see you or hear from you. She doesn’t give a **** about you and you know what? She doesn’t have to. If I were her, I'd have gotten a restraining order on you by now. Seriously. And every time you make contact you look like a desperate fool. And you shouldn’t give a **** about her and you should be done too. Never, ever derive your happiness from someone else. Happiness comes from within. Others only augment it. If you’re unhappy by yourself, you’ll be unhappy with someone else. It’ll just be sugar coated. If I was married to someone and I looked like a card-carrying vagina, I’d expect them to leave too. Did it ever occur to you that possibly one of the reasons your ex left is because she didn’t like who YOU were?

No apologies from me. I'm off to the gym to work out for a few hours. You know what you need to do. Grow a set and go do it.

Man speaks simple truth. C'mon Jeff, time to get yourself together mofo.
Scott

[snide]

There's no crying in baseball. Man the **** up.

[Millenium Vette]

Originally Posted by boracayjohnny

Life is weird. Be weird back.

My dad, who passed away a few short months ago, instilled in me years ago something that didn't take hold until 20 or so years later. He told me I would accomplish the things I hoped for. It just wouldn't be on my timetable.

[boracayjohnny]

Originally Posted by Millenium Vette

My dad, who passed away a few short months ago, instilled in me years ago something that didn't take hold until 20 or so years later. He told me I would accomplish the things I hoped for. It just wouldn't be on my timetable.

[Norm]

My first wife dumped me for some muscle bound dude with a lot of money after 20 years and two kids. Other than a few times for events with the kids early on, have not had contact with her and have no desire to........... My second marriage, great, couldn't ask for a better gal.

She's alienated her whole family, sons don't want have anything to do with her, her greed and vanity has consumed her.

The guy she left me for? After being married a while, dumped her for a younger biker chick. She's just a lonely old woman now..........

They're out there, it will take time, and that broken heart feeling will eventually go away.

[Aerovette]

My best friend lost his mom. She had Alzheimers and wandered away from home and died in the desert. Two weeks ago he had his dog collapse in his yard and die. Both things shook a really stoic person to the core.

He's been a friend of mine for about 25 years.

He was at my house last week until about 3:30 AM talking about it all.

If he wants to talk about it for the next 6 years. I'll listen.

Because he is my friend...and that's what friends do.


Aerovette signing off.

[MrPeabody]

All I have to offer is that I know exactly how you feel. It's uncanny that I went through exactly the feelings you are describing. What's different is I was 17 years old at the time. Interpret that any way you wish, because I don't know what to make of it.

I wound up living alone for over ten years, with no lasting relationships with women. I liked it at the time. I did guy stuff. I street raced. I worked in a predominately male occupation. I went to rock concerts, then went to clubs to see music. In the late 80s I was spending 4-5 nights in bars listening to great music. I lived in Silicon Valley, and there was plenty of good times available. According to people I have talked to that got married and divorced during this time in their life, all I missed out on was losing my house while paying child support and alimony.

But at 17 I had the luxury of time. I don't know what I would do at my age, or even your age. Only you can figure that out for yourself. Just enjoy tomorrow, because tomorrow is all any of us have. And it's all I had at 17.

[Milton Fox]

Originally Posted by aerovette

My best friend lost his mom. She had Alzheimers and wandered away from home and died in the desert. Two weeks ago he had his dog collapse in his yard and die. Both things shook a really stoic person to the core.

He's been a friend of mine for about 25 years.

He was at my house last week until about 3:30 AM talking about it all.

If he wants to talk about it for the next 6 years. I'll listen.

Because he is my friend...and that's what friends do.


Aerovette signing off.

You dont need our permission to start a relationship with him. We are going to give you lots of grief about it, but its your life.

[Sea Six]

How about that '74 project car?

Seems like this may be an excellent time to get that one finished up.

[Hoog]

Originally Posted by aerovette

....Because he is my friend...and that's what friends do.


Aerovette signing off.

When friends ask for advice, friends also tell them the truth, not enable counter-productive behaviors.

The way I interpret that post you won't be reading this anyway, but...gook luck.

[mrvette]

Sympathy and Empathy for you, Aero.......I been there twice myself.....

[04 commemorative]

Hey.....your feelings are real.....I hope things get better for you.....I am not one to offer advice but hang in there man.Things will get better I think

[m and t's77]

Originally Posted by Milton Fox

You dont need our permission to start a relationship with him. We are going to give you lots of grief about it, but its your life.

YouTube

BTW,IC said it best might be up front and in your face but the truth has to be at times.I've been down and out gone through the big "D" myself and bounce back even better then before.
Grovelling back to the ex Now that you know it's finally over in your head you can move forward no looking back.

[Mike Mercury]

[StaticCling]

Originally Posted by aerovette

signing off.

[JRD77VET]

Volunteer Not only will you help other folks, it will lift your spirits too

Good luck

[markids77]

Get a pet. Call a hooker. Jump out of a perfectly good airplane. Learn a new language and go speak it in that country. Take a gourmet cooking class. Enroll in an online gunsmithing course. Call Jenny Craig and lose 35 pounds so you think you might just be thin enough to be attractive. Get a new wardrobe. Move to a new State. Change your hair color and grow a Fu Manchu 'stache. Do a Diners Drive Ins and Dives tour of the 3 states surrounding yours. Get creative and really challenge yourself to change. Live a little!!!!!!!

Oh, and be man enough to come back and share what you learn. Please.

[Olustee bus]

When I was going through that, I was really down, bouncing from one place to live to another. Every other weekend I was able to stay at my home with my child while my wife was out with her soon to be new husband. ON Sunday I left my home to temporary housing ( a friends apartment). I got real drunk and the next morning I looked in the mirror and did not recognize myself. I knew I had hit bottom. I stared at that poor bastard in the mirror and a strange feeling came over me.

AT that very time, I vowed to myself that I would make a better life for myself. Certainly better than it was at that time but also better than when I was married as I was really miserable then. I never forgot that vow. It did not happen all at once but every decision from that point on was made with that vow in mind.


I never forgot that vow and it worked. I moved in a very positive direction.

You can too.

[Barn Babe]

I've got nothing useful to add, but I wanted to send good vibes to you anyway.