old joke:
husband and wife are making dinner one night, and she asks him, "honey, if I die first, will you re-marry?"
"well, I don't know, I hadn't given that much thought"
"honey, I want you to be happy all your days, so I want you to promise me that you will re-marry if I die first"
"ok, I promise"
"will your new wife use my golf clubs?"
"no, she's left handed"
so much for dinner....