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Originally Posted by Chemtrails99
Turn into the bastard she imagines you are and fight for every little thing. Withdraw 100% of your concessions and tell her lawyer it's time to start over. Crater your credit rating and lose the house if need be, then demand alimony from her and repayment of the money you spent on her loans. If the youngest kid is 17, suffer out the year left until they are an adult and don't worry about custody.
The best defense is always a counter attack. Lawyers are used to getting the upper hand and exploiting it. When you go sideways they start to see the case as a time-wasting losing proposition and often will settle far cheaper than when they think they are in control.
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This is a very common tactic if they feel you are getting anxious to finalize the divorce. They try to get a big concession out of you, holding the carrot of the pain reaching its end. Financially, it would be better to gut it out until the youngest child turns 18, if you can stand it. Either way, I would respond harshly, and say that she can have 50% of the retirement, but then you get 50% of the cash assets (sounds like you are getting substantially less), and you get a portion of the amount her income exceeds yours as alimony.