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Can't get your spouse to tackle — and then finish — any projects on the "honey-do" list? Dr. Phil has theories as to why some projects are just left undone, and how your marriage can be affected.

# When a project is done, you open yourself up to criticism. If you've got the "I'm not finished with it yet" excuse, you protect yourself. With the completion of any endeavor comes evaluation and judgment. What are you afraid of?

# Once a project is complete, some people are afraid of having nothing left on the "To Do" list. Leaving it unfinished means that you've still got something to attend to.


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When making out a "honey do" list be prepared to offer some assistance with the items on the list. A task can be accomplished faster if two people positively tackle the activity together.
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If you are unable to help with the items on the list, do something in exchange. Trading tasks assures your partner that you do not want them to be the only one contributing to the chores that need to be done.
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Offer a reward to the person doing the tasks on the list. Take them out for a nice dinner. Prepare one of their favorite meals or desserts at home. Take them to an event that they will enjoy such as a movie or sports event
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Above all else, be sure to express your gratitude. And remember, if you have someone to help you with daily chores or with projects you can't complete alone, be sure not to abuse their kindness. A one-sided "honey do" list is anything but sweet. A "honey do" listed that involves the two of you working together can be very sweet.


# "When momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy," says Dr. Phil to one husband who's got unfinished projects in practically every room of the house. "You're messing with the nest." Such actions can leave your spouse with the conclusion that she isn't loved, that you're not interested in making her happy, and don't care about what she wants. You may think it's only an issue of a dangling electrical cord or a panel in the roof, but there's far more to it.

# If your spouse's unfinished projects are really making you crazy, Dr. Phil advises: "You teach people how to treat you." If it's not OK with you, draw the line.