This article could be helpful....
https://www.raptitude.com/2014/07/not-giving-a-shit/
Also the AA Big Book describes the cause of over drinking(self medicating) is linked to caring so much about getting your way,
that you get blown out when things out of your control happen .
The main tenent is to stop worring about things out of our control & turn your cares over to God .
I think this is addressed within the first 5 chapters .....
You dont have to be an alky for the information to help .
https://www.aa.org/the-big-book
A snipet>
https://www.aa.org/sites/default/fil...ook_chapt5.pdf
read from the bottom third of pg 60 thru 1st third of pg 63 ....see if anything resonates .