Stuff.
 

I'm not looking for sympathy here folks, I'm just unloading a bit so bear with me.

A few months ago my wife started having what I'll refer to as 'woman problems.' Several trips to the Doctor later they decided she needed a hysterectomy and a few other repairs on her woman parts. In general, this isn't *too* big of a deal but there's always risk associated with surgery. A week prior to her woman repairs she had her yearly mammogram. And here's where it all went south. They picked something up they wanted a closer look at so they scheduled another appointment -the day prior to her hysterectomy- to investigate further. This visit resulted in a biopsy of the suspect 'thing.'

The hysterectomy and associated repairs went very well. The surgeon told me it would take a couple hours so naturally at two hours and one minute I was staring at my watch muttering to myself; WTF is taking so long? Three and a half hours later he came out and informed me everything went as planned, no surprises but she's going to be sore for a bit. She was also supposed to go home the next day but that didn't happen due to some minor issues which resolved themselves. She ended up staying another couple days.

And now the bad news. The day after her surgery while she was still hospitalized, the breast clinic called with the results of the biopsy. Cancer. I'm generally a very pragmatic person but this knocked me back on my heels a bit. OK, a lot. My first reaction was almost disbelief which quickly gave way to anger, and shortly after that, resolve. "**** it. We'll deal. No choice."

A couple weeks ago we had the consultation with the Oncologist. This was a three hour meeting discussing what we're dealing with, treatment options and the general path forward. The important pieces are this; this could not have been caught earlier and it's VERY small. It's also the most common type of breast cancer and the most treatable. She'll need radiation for sure, but according to the Doctor, "I'd be surprised if she needed Chemo." Basically, our takeaway was if you're going to get breast cancer, her's is the one you want to get. (If there is such a thing)

The woman has the constitution of an Ox. Her attitude about all this is phenomenal. She's had a few tough days when she made the appointment for the lumpectomy. 'It's real now' was her comment. Cancer surgery is Jan. 4th. A month after that radiation begins. Five days a week for six weeks. As for the Chemo piece, we won't know until about a week after surgery but we're holding out hope she'll escape this.

So for now, she recuperates here at home with our four dogs. And in January, we attack this new issue. I'll tell you what, if I could do it for her I would in a second.

Please folks - no cancer horror stories. We WILL prevail here I know it in my heart of hearts. And more importantly, so does she. Also, I'm friends with a few of you on Facebook. So far we've been able to keep this off social media and we'd like to keep it that way for the time being. While this place *is* public it's definitely not FB.

Onward.

Prayers for your wife and you .......May 2019 bring good things and great health to you both.:seasix:

Praying for you and your wife for good outcomes and for peace about this situation. Early detection and advanced treatments are very successful.

Prayers are with you all.:sadangel:

Wishing the best for you and your wife!

Will keep you and your wife in our prayers and may God bless the both of you.:cert:

We'll keep you in our thoughts/prayers here. As you repeated earlier, breast cancer treatment has come a long way and most is quite survivable.

Only piece I'd add is to research her particular type and reach out to other clinics for suggested treatment options. There may be alternatives to radiation as technology is advancing all the time.

You two certainly seem to have your mental game in order and that's #1. :cert:
Scott

More prayers sent!

I hope and pray all goes well!

Both of you sound like you have the correct attitude!

My wife went through chemo several years ago and was cleared!

Mike

Wow, that’s tough news. Prayers, but also the radiation treatments have come a long ways, fingers crossed no chemo is even needed.

Indeed.
For both of you, positive thoughts and results.

Man, sorry to hear. That is tough. Thoughts, prayers your way :)


My buddies wife was in a very similar predicament a few years ago. She did just fine and is doing well. The doctors words sound encouraging. It is going to be ok. :angel:

Prayers sent your way.

Pics!!!



In all seriousness, pics of you in a pink shirt at the parade!!!


No really. You guys will get through. Right now it is a major setback, however, in a year from now, she'll be fine. This is totally survivable, and with her female parts gone, hormones will not contribute to the cancer, and she can't contract it in there anymore.
The recovery will be tough for you. Just remember that she is the one that is suffering. When it gets mentally bad for you, get out and scream out of her sight. As difficult as it will be for you on occasion, stay positive in front of her.
Best of luck to both of you.

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All the best to you & your wife. Optimism is justified, as treatments get better all the time.

My mother had breast cancer surgery, followed by radiation, in her late 40's. She lived until 96 with no recurrence.

Stay positive!

Wow- that's a very impressive positive attitude you both have, Thomas!

I'm sure everything will come out well for your wife!


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And thanks for sharing with us. You're solidly a member of the family here and we love to hear from you.

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Hey Tomcat.....you guyz hang in there man, your wife sounds like mine from the description, so my money sez she be FINE!!!!!

yeh, it's depressing, but I"m convinced that chicks are mentally tougher then guyz.....TTWIG.......

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OH, and Happy New Year!! :shots:

sending good thoughts and prayers

2019 is going to be the year your wife kicks the ass of cancer. 2019 is the year she's going to get all this over with, one and done. It's going to happen, it's going to be inconvenient, and then it will be over. She's strong. You're strong. Just work the process and get through it.

We are all pulling for you both. Really.