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Old 11-14-2017, 10:17am   #1 (permalink)
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Default Divorce... It is official

As of this morning, about 10 minutes ago, I am legally UN-married.

Became a couple - October 28th 1995.
22 years with the same person in my life. My best friend.

Time to pull up the big-boy pants and move on with life. It's going to be really tough.

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Sorry Aero, things will get better! You’ll see the positive in this all soon enough. Best of luck, let me know if you need to grab a beer locally.
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Look. She is NOT your "best friend." She isn't even a friend. Look forward, not back. Everybody has bad shit happen to them. Do you want to go through life being a victim? I don't think so. Move on. You now have the paperwork protecting you from losing any more money going forward. Tuck that in the bottom of your safe and go live your life.
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Also, what Chris said....that too.
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It will get better, think positive, you're starting a new life now. Lots of folks stay stuck in that situation for the sake of........pick a subject. And the same lots of folks don't get that opportunity to start over.

Best of luck in the future, chin up.
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Look. She is NOT your "best friend." She isn't even a friend. Look forward, not back. Everybody has bad shit happen to them. Do you want to go through life being a victim? I don't think so. Move on. You now have the paperwork protecting you from losing any more money going forward. Tuck that in the bottom of your safe and go live your life.

seen enough of your posts to get a handle on what kind of person you are. A GOOD ONE! If she was so great she would be by your side. She's not. On either account.
I've been stuck. For years. Once you gain that clarity that only time can bring then you will put down that hammer that you keep bashing yourself with.
She's not ALL that, or ever was.
Live your life!
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Don't pursue anyone just because you want companionship, you will end up in the same situation you are in now. It gets easier man, get out there and spend time finding the things YOU enjoy the most. Once you find what makes YOU happy, you will notice that there might be someone else that you see doing the same things.

That's when the door opens

Happiness is internal - no one else can create that for you nor can you create that for someone else.
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Take Bill and Chris up on their offer. It'll do you a world of good.
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Should make this a sticky.
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Should make this a sticky.
..or at the very least a mega-merge...
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Don't pursue anyone just because you want companionship,

Exactly.

That's what Tinder is for...



















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A few things...

You are correct...she WAS my best friend. Is no longer.

I had a few friends over a couple weeks back and it was the BEST medicine I could ever have taken. The subject came up, but it was not sad. It was just conversation.

My new distraction will be my 1974 Charger. I bought the car in high school in 1978 and I am going to dive in to it and I'm hell bent on getting it back on the road. A lot of work and unfortunately $$$ too, but I'll do it in bite sized pieces.

I'm seriously too old to be sleeping around and too ugly to pick up anyone that I'd be attracted too so I don't have to worry about a bad "rebound" relationship.

I need to get my finances in line with the limited years I have left to work (probably 10-12 before I get taken out with the trash).

I need to focus on my mom and dad while they are still alive.

All that being said, it sucks not having a special someone to share with. There is no denying that.


EDIT: As for a mega-merge / sticky, I am not going to dwell in this space. I'm hoping this will be the final thread regarding my drama mama. She's legally, officially, physically, emotionally GONE.

Threads in my future will be about other stuff going on.
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Just take a trip to PI with Dixie. You'll come back with a wife and lots of family.
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The day will come that you will realize she was not your best friend, and that she was right to end the marriage. You're not the first guy to go thru this, nor have the thoughts you do. A little time and space will give you a clarity that you can't even imagine.
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Divorced, eh? Lucky bastard!

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The day will come that you will realize she was not your best friend, and that she was right to end the marriage. You're not the first guy to go thru this, nor have the thoughts you do. A little time and space will give you a clarity that you can't even imagine.

I'm not the first guy to lose a wife, a pet, a parent, a car, or anything, but when it's YOU, the impact is different than it is when it is someone else. Time heals all wounds, it is minimizing that time that is the challenge.
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Oh, FYI, the perfect woman was Helen Keller. If you can find a gal like that, hang on to her.
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