Sad topic, just need to write for a moment

[Black94lt1]

Let me start by saying I'm not looking for anything from VBOT, I just need to sit and write this out for a moment.

Two weeks ago yesterday I lost my best friend to suicide, no note no nothing. This is a person who I have known for 20 years and have become very close with over the last 5. We spent many weeks and weekends on the road heading to and from races and many early mornings and late nights on those trips working to go faster or repairing the damage from an accident.

From the best we can determine, we was suffering from depression which no one saw, that combined with some physical health issues and professional challenges was all too much to take.

What I have learned is that depression is a much more serious issue than I could have ever thought and also that it can be masked easily from others. None of us that knew him would have ever thought anything was wrong. The mourning will never end for those of us who were his friends and certainly for his family, but we must move on and not be sad about his death but rather celebrate his life, all of the great times we had and the joyous memories we will always have!

Love and cherish all of those in your lives and do everything you can to help them if they need it!

RIP #13 :sadangel:

[MrPeabody]

Sorry to hear this. I, too, have lost good friends this way. It's impossible for me to make any sense out of it.

[Strats-N-Vettes]

Condolences on losing your friend. :angel:

[Loco Vette]

:sadangel: Stinks

[Barn Babe]

So sorry for your loss. :sadangel:

[Rob]

Condolences :sadangel:

[Jobaka]

:sadangel: Sorry for your loss.






...we must move on and not be sad about his death but rather celebrate his life, all of the great times we had and the joyous memories we will always have!



Truth.

[6spdC6]

Condolences I lost a fried that way also:sadangel:

With the way the governments are treating people that claim they have depression or a couple other problems many will not say or act like there depressed when at a doctors or shrink. They are afraid to ask for help and things like this happen.

[Burro (He/Haw)]

Sorry for your loss. Especially hard when nobody noticed the depression and this happens pretty much out of the blue. Awful.

[VITE1]

My Brother killed himself August 16th 1987 which was his 30th Birthday and just weeks before my first child was born.

I understand your pain.

[mrvette]

Sorry man, damn shame, I know how you feel, my best friend in HS did that in '63 .....and so no one can help.....psych counseling is useless.....long story....damnit.....:sadangel:

[Black94lt1]

My Brother killed himself August 16th 1987 which was his 30th Birthday and just weeks before my first child was born.

I understand your pain.

Sorry man, damn shame, I know how you feel, my best friend in HS did that in '63 .....and so no one can help.....psych counseling is useless.....long story....damnit.....:sadangel:

Thanks to both of you, what I have discovered in the last couple of weeks is that a lot of people in my life have dealt with this at some point in their lives. It's truly a tragic thing and the help from others who have dealt with this have helped all of us tremendously.

[HellCat]

So very, very sorry for your loss.

[island14]

I understand your loss.. and also understand your feelings to just vent about it some..

Even if just to your friends here at the Barn on the net which most you never met in person.

I sometimes feel like doing the same.. :yesnod:

Venting I mean, not checking out.. :D

Sometimes there are no answers, and if your friend would have taken the time to talk to you as a friend possibly you could have helped him.. but he did not..

I do know you feel pain and sorrow for the loss of your friend, and have lost a few myself over the years..

But you can't beat yourself up over it any as they did not let you.. or anyone else know.

Maybe at least now the pain that caused them so much grief is gone...

Myself.. I always figured just one more day to see what happens, it can always get better.. but ya can't take it back or change your mind once it's done... :( :yesnod:

:cert:

[OldSarge]

:sadangel:.....Sorry for your loss, it happens and sometimes we don't know why, or understand.

[04 commemorative]

so sorry...:sadangel:

[JRD77VET]

Sorry to hear about your friend. :sadangel:

It's something I don't understand at all but it deeply effects those left behind. :sadangel:

[Black94lt1]

Sometimes there are no answers, and if your friend would have taken the time to talk to you as a friend possibly you could have helped him.. but he did not..

Maybe at least now the pain that caused them so much grief is gone...


You know, he and I along with some other racing friends had dinner and drinks just a couple weeks of weeks before and everything seemed fine. I have asked myself hundreds of times over the last two weeks how I could not have seen something or why couldn't he have said something. At the end of the day, neither was going to happen and I now accept that. He's at piece now and I pray for him every day!

[Bill]

Sorry for your loss. I lost a friend from high school...had a wife and four kids. :sadangel:

[VatorMan]

One of my wife and my good friends died the same way. Bright and bubbly-stunningly good looking young lady. I was in a state of total disbelief. You think someone that has everything to live for maybe didn't.
Sorry for your loss. Don't beat yourself up too bad-one thing I have learned is that no matter how well you know someone, is that you don't KNOW them.

[stingraymyway]

Depression is a silent killer. It eats at you until you feel like there's nothing left to live for. :sadangel:

[wwomanC6]

So sorry to hear this! :sadangel: May your friend be at peace and RIP. Someday you will see them again. What a wonderful day that will be when we meet up again will all the ones we love and miss! May you find peace until then.

[69camfrk]

Suicide is tough to deal with for the survivors. Having known several people over the years that have killed themselves,(being military, I've seen more than my fair share) I think for the most part that friends and family members never pick up on the signs of depression, or at least not the type that would lead one to their own demise. Friends and family can't be replaced, and while we don't know each other personally, I'm very sorry for your loss. It's a tough thing to deal with and we always wonder how and why, and what could we have done. You never know when someone is to the end of their rope and as survivors, all we can hope for is that the pain ended for them.:sadangel:

[Maroon97]

Words are often extremely hard to come by when someone feels they have nothing. The inner turmoil someone feels is often not explainable or they feel no one will understand. I am deeply saddened for your loss. Talking about your friend is the best memorial you can them.