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lspencer534
03-06-2012, 7:55pm
and, looking back, it makes you cringe at yourself? IC's thread about missing some parts of marriage prompted my thought. My first wife and I married when we were 23. Although I had planned to go to med school, I went to law school instead. She had no problem with that.
Let me explain my reason for not going to med school; it'll give you some understanding of how immature I was. I actually got accepted in med school; I think the only reason I was ever in pre-med is because my buds were in pre-med, ergo, so was I. Hell, I could never operate on someone; I have to lie down when they take my blood so I won't pass out. I finally did the sensible thing and went to law school
After starting my practice, I had money, something I'd never had before. I grew up on a farm in a small community. Suddenly I was "rich"...and married to a plain girl from the bootheel of Missouri. Also, I had never "sewn my wild oats", and I knew that was coming: I was going to have an affair (or affairs, probably). So I told her I wanted a divorce.
She was totally crushed emotionally. Her pleas and her crying haunted me for years; she had done nothing to deserve such pain other than to love me. She simply didn't deserve it. To me, I knew I was doing the right thing, certainly for me and ultimately for her, too. But that didn't stop the pain and guilt for feeling like I hadn't kept up my part of the bargain. I was a heel, someone who was dumping the wife that helped put him through school.
I waited a long to to re-marry (fortunately). I now have a nice home, a successful career, a loving wife (most of the time, anyway), and a beautiful daughter. Thank God my first wife and I never had kids. I don't love my ex-wife, likely never did, but I'm not proud of what happened.
Rotorhead
03-06-2012, 7:59pm
No but been on the receiving end. Bitch stole my checkbook and cashed them for 20 a peice at Kroger to the tune of 700 bucks about 14 years ago.
Barn Babe
03-06-2012, 8:06pm
Yes I screwed him over, but since he was doing the same to me it doesn't make me cringe. Ah to be young and stupid again...
The ex that is. I'd never do anything like that to Jon. :nono:
LisaJohn
03-06-2012, 8:11pm
I think I'll call J at work and tell him how much I love him.
BRB.
L/MM
lspencer534
03-06-2012, 8:24pm
I think I'll call J at work and tell him how much I love him.
BRB.
L/MM
:hurray:
oyealiz
03-06-2012, 9:14pm
Have you ever totally screwed over a SO...?
No. Although some of the whiny assed babies might say I did.
:rofl:
BADRACR1
03-06-2012, 9:17pm
Have you ever totally screwed over a SO...?
No. Although some of the whiny assed babies might say I did.
:rofl:
:slap: Give 'em hell, Liz!
Burro (He/Haw)
03-06-2012, 9:17pm
Nope. I as just an epic DICK towards the end. She told me of an affair she had, I tried to deal with it but was unable. Thus the epic dickheadedness.
BADRACR1
03-06-2012, 9:18pm
Yeah. More than once. I'm guessing that's part of the reason for the three (yes, three) divorces.
:shots: That's life.
Iron Chef
03-06-2012, 9:18pm
Yeah...I've done some things in the past that I'm not proud of...no...very ashamed of. Probably a lot of it stemmed from the fact that I wasn't terribly happy in a given relationship or my marriage.
BUT...
You can't go back (don't care what Bon Jovi says!) so the idea is to learn from what you've done wrong and don't do it again. Live your life the best you can going forward.
I've also told my kids not to look to their parents as an example of what is, but rather what can be if you're not careful. And I added that marriage is a great thing with the right person.
It's all you can do.
and, looking back, it makes you cringe at yourself? IC's thread about missing some parts of marriage prompted my thought. My first wife and I married when we were 23. Although I had planned to go to med school, I went to law school instead. She had no problem with that.
Let me explain my reason for not going to med school; it'll give you some understanding of how immature I was. I actually got accepted in med school; I think the only reason I was ever in pre-med is because my buds were in pre-med, ergo, so was I. Hell, I could never operate on someone; I have to lie down when they take my blood so I won't pass out. I finally did the sensible thing and went to law school
After starting my practice, I had money, something I'd never had before. I grew up on a farm in a small community. Suddenly I was "rich"...and married to a plain girl from the bootheel of Missouri. Also, I had never "sewn my wild oats", and I knew that was coming: I was going to have an affair (or affairs, probably). So I told her I wanted a divorce.
She was totally crushed emotionally. Her pleas and her crying haunted me for years; she had done nothing to deserve such pain other than to love me. She simply didn't deserve it. To me, I knew I was doing the right thing, certainly for me and ultimately for her, too. But that didn't stop the pain and guilt for feeling like I hadn't kept up my part of the bargain. I was a heel, someone who was dumping the wife that helped put him through school.
I waited a long to to re-marry (fortunately). I now have a nice home, a successful career, a loving wife (most of the time, anyway), and a beautiful daughter. Thank God my first wife and I never had kids. I don't love my ex-wife, likely never did, but I'm not proud of what happened.Man that was pretty harsh of you for sure. Yes to the question. One of my deepest regrets through the years. Like a bullet you can't take it back once you pull the trigger.
and, looking back, it makes you cringe at yourself? IC's thread about missing some parts of marriage prompted my thought. My first wife and I married when we were 23. Although I had planned to go to med school, I went to law school instead. She had no problem with that.
Let me explain my reason for not going to med school; it'll give you some understanding of how immature I was. I actually got accepted in med school; I think the only reason I was ever in pre-med is because my buds were in pre-med, ergo, so was I. Hell, I could never operate on someone; I have to lie down when they take my blood so I won't pass out. I finally did the sensible thing and went to law school
After starting my practice, I had money, something I'd never had before. I grew up on a farm in a small community. Suddenly I was "rich"...and married to a plain girl from the bootheel of Missouri. Also, I had never "sewn my wild oats", and I knew that was coming: I was going to have an affair (or affairs, probably). So I told her I wanted a divorce.
She was totally crushed emotionally. Her pleas and her crying haunted me for years; she had done nothing to deserve such pain other than to love me. She simply didn't deserve it. To me, I knew I was doing the right thing, certainly for me and ultimately for her, too. But that didn't stop the pain and guilt for feeling like I hadn't kept up my part of the bargain. I was a heel, someone who was dumping the wife that helped put him through school.
I waited a long to to re-marry (fortunately). I now have a nice home, a successful career, a loving wife (most of the time, anyway), and a beautiful daughter. Thank God my first wife and I never had kids. I don't love my ex-wife, likely never did, but I'm not proud of what happened.
So, did the ex marry a doctor?
kingpin
03-06-2012, 9:26pm
Yes!
Cliffs:
Dating a girl for 2 years. I was 18 at the time she was 24.
I knew she wanted to get married.
Found out she was cheating on me.
Bought a ring, proposed.
She said yes.
Had a great week of extreme rodeo sex.
Got up on a Saturday morning exactly 1 week after being engaged.
Took the ring off her finger.
Left telling her off while she was begging me to stay.
Took off in my car with a great feeling and pulled over in the middle of the street.
Threw engagement ring down the sewer and had an even greater feeling.
The end!
Burro (He/Haw)
03-06-2012, 9:27pm
Live your life the best you can going forward
Or vote Republican. The choice is up to you. :D
IC is right. Can't fix your earlier mistakes, but you sure as hell don't have to repeat them.
xXBUDXx
03-06-2012, 9:33pm
Yes!
Cliffs:
Dating a girl for 2 years. I was 18 at the time she was 24.
I knew she wanted to get married.
Found out she was cheating on me.
Bought a ring, proposed.
She said yes.
Had a great week of extreme rodeo sex.
Got up on a Saturday morning exactly 1 week after being engaged.
Took the ring off her finger.
Left telling her off while she was begging me to stay.
Took off in my car with a great feeling and pulled over in the middle of the street.
Threw engagement ring down the sewer and had an even greater feeling.
The end!
If you had crapped in the coffee maker on your way out, you would have become my new hero. I'll keep you in the top ten, anyway.
kingpin
03-06-2012, 9:37pm
If you had crapped in the coffee maker on your way out, you would have become my new hero. I'll keep you in the top ten, anyway.
I crapped in a can of paint before I quit my job at a building centre. Sirius.
Butterfly71
03-06-2012, 9:41pm
Nope
also been on the receiving end. 6 years and $100k later, I still hope he and his family have a miserable life. :D
oyealiz
03-06-2012, 9:44pm
also been on the receiving end. 6 years and $100k later, I still hope he and his family have a miserable life. :D
:confused5:
Did it cost you that to get out of it?
Nah.
Worst I ever did to one was throw away her W-2.
I knew if I saw her again, things would rekindle...
:confused5:
Did it cost you that to get out of it?
no.....they embezzled it from my parents. Makes it that much worse.
Some would say puppy love, but the HS sweetheart. Treated her like shit, and I regret it everyday.
kingpin
03-06-2012, 9:59pm
Dang the people who got that paint got some chitty paint. :D
I made sure it was a mixing base so a certain manager would open it to mix it.
:rofl:
LisaJohn
03-06-2012, 9:59pm
A nooner would really show how much you care. :D :yesnod:
:lol:
He's evening shift this week and I leave at 7am for work so I'll just text or call him later and tell him how lucky he is to have me!
kingpin
03-06-2012, 9:59pm
I got screwed over (in the bad way) by my HS GF.
Interestingly enough, it was due to a guy in another state over the internet.
:slap:
:rofl::rofl::rofl:
Yeah...I've done some things in the past that I'm not proud of...no...very ashamed of. Probably a lot of it stemmed from the fact that I wasn't terribly happy in a given relationship or my marriage.
BUT...
You can't go back (don't care what Bon Jovi says!) so the idea is to learn from what you've done wrong and don't do it again. Live your life the best you can going forward.
I've also told my kids not to look to their parents as an example of what is, but rather what can be if you're not careful. And I added that marriage is a great thing with the right person.
It's all you can do.
You sure are one melancholy mf'er today. :D
polarbear
03-07-2012, 12:11am
Or vote Republican. The choice is up to you. :D
IC is right. Can't fix your earlier mistakes, but you sure as hell don't have to repeat them.
:yesnod:
For me, been on the giving and recieving end of that equation. You live and learn. Painful to watch my son make the same mistakes- but he's young, and will learn the same way I did.
FasterTraffic
03-07-2012, 12:26am
I called a girlfriend from the airplane right before departure to tell her I was on my way to Cancun and she was single. It was uncharacteristic of me but I don't regret it. She could not have been more wrong for me and I should have bailed much sooner.
oyealiz
03-07-2012, 2:41am
no.....they embezzled it from my parents. Makes it that much worse.
:(
That is awful.
Firevette
03-07-2012, 3:57am
No. NEVER. Never cheated, never used anyone, always straight forward, always told the truth.
I was known among friends as "the saint" at one point many years ago. It never did anything for me, never got me anywhere, and I almost hate myself for it. There have been many missed opportunities on my part in the name of "doing the right thing". Eventually it will probably lead to my demise, but its part of who I am.....apparently. :seasix:
I've been used, lied to, and cheated on so many goddamn times I see it a mile away. Doesn't mean I still dont let it happen, I just dont do it to anyone else because I know what its like. It's not cool.
Whatever. **** it. :datawiz:
Mike Mercury
03-07-2012, 9:37am
Have you ever totally screwed over a SO...
and, looking back, it makes you cringe at yourself?.
if we're talking about a divorce.... HELL NO !!!
being a male; I'm automotically going to get screwed. Nice guys - going through a divorce - do look back later on... and determine...
they got shafted... BIG TIME.
...Whitepower...
03-07-2012, 10:26am
Never.. I am a good guy. :D
Iron Chef
03-07-2012, 10:33am
You sure are one melancholy mf'er today. :D
Yeah...misplaced my Midol. :D
Not totally, just a little. She was paying 75% of the rent on our apartment while I was going to school. Lived with her about 6 mos and moved out. Fact was we were using each other, she was investing in a life of ease and I was getting out of my parents house and into a pleasently physical relationship. I was kind of mean to her at the end but she was sleeping around. I wouldnt say "Cheating" because I dont think either of us had that deep a commitment to each other. Somehow she decided that we were going to get married after I got my associates degree but I had planned to get my bachelors, so push out any possible wedding another two years. that was kind of the end in her mind. Recently found her on FB, just like all 3 of her sisters she divorced husband #1 (could have been me) so I think everythign turned out for the best.:seasix:
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