Why did you get married?

[ConstantChange]

This is a spin off of the alimony thread. I would like to hear the reason you decided to get married instead of living basically the same life without a marriage certificate. I guess in some states it would be a common-law marriage, but I don't know the specifics.

For religious reasons, I completely understand, but if you're not religious, what was your reason?

Was it because that's just what people do?

I've heard people say "for the kids", but don't see the logic. What's the difference? Is it legal and/or tax reasons?

I'm not trying to stir the pot or say people shouldn't get married, I'm honestly trying to understand the logic behind it. My assumption is that it's basically tradition driving the decision.

[Jeff '79]

T&A

[Chris Fowler]

because I love my wife. Simple as that.

[ConstantChange]

T&A

So you wanted to be limited to one pair of T's and one A for the rest of your life? If you want T&A, marriage is not the answer.

[Gozar]

because I love my wife. Simple as that.

:iagree:

[cmb396]

Because we wanted to, no sense in playing house.

[Blademaker]

Because I met a lady that cared enough about me to see through a pretty scummy past, that realized that I would work like a dog to support our family.
I married my best friend almost 32 years ago.
We promised each other that we would grow old, fat, and ugly together.
So far, so good.

[Jeff '79]

So you wanted to be limited to one pair of T's and one A for the rest of your life? If you want T&A, marriage is not the answer.

Ya...She's hawt....I prolly can't do better...

[ConstantChange]

because I love my wife. Simple as that.

You can't love her without a certificate? Love and marriage are two separate things. Didn't you love her before you got married?

Was it you loved her and knew you had to marry her or else she would move on and find another guy who would?

[JRD77VET]

because I love my wife. Simple as that.

I married my best friend :seasix:

[ConstantChange]

Ya...She's hawt....I prolly can't do better...

I can understand the logic in that.

[ConstantChange]

Think outside the box. You can love someone without being married. You can be best friends with someone without being married.

There is nothing wrong with "tradition" being the answer. A LOT of the things we do we do because that's just the way things are done.

[Burro (He/Haw)]

I lived with my wife 10 years before marrying her. I know this doesn't answer your question, but it was time.

I had opportunities outside the relationship and never took a single one of them. I supposes when the light finally went on I was committed to this person, we married.

It was the right move. The day we got married, we did what we usually do. Took care of the dogs, fought for mirror space and went and got married.

When we came home, our relationship felt different in a good way.

Enough of this goopy shit. :D

[99 pewtercoupe]

Becuase I met a woman who understood me, loeved me and accepted me for what I was. She new what I needed to be a better man and was willing to stand by me to get me there.
We will celebrate 36 years of marriage this summer and as we grow older together I love her more than ever.

[kingpin]

Becuase I met a woman who understood me, loeved me and accepted me for what I was. She new what I needed to be a better man and was willing to stand by me to get me there.
We will celebrate 36 years of marriage this summer and as we grow older together I love her more than ever.

she's looking over your shoulder isn't she.

:D

[Mike Mercury]

So you wanted to be limited to one pair of T's and one A for the rest of your life?

Are you asking me that?


:)

[99 pewtercoupe]

she's looking over your shoulder isn't she.

:D

Actually she is in upstate NY getting ready to go into a client's office tomorrow and tell them how effed up they are (I am sitting in our humble abode in Illinois drinking wine and posting on VBOT)

[Aflac]

because im a dumbass x 4..... :leaving:

[LisaJohn]

Because John had a cool car!:lol:

[VatorMan]

She was pregnant and Daddy had a gun. Serious.

[HeatherO]

I got married because I was pregnant and wanted to have a "normal" family...the man I married (who I thought was my best friend) thought it would be a good idea to continue to live like a bachelor and let his momma support his "family"....I called it quits after 5 yrs and two kids....:dunno:

[Sea Six]

Because John had a cool car!:lol:

Pics of car?

[99 pewtercoupe]

I got married because I was pregnant and wanted to have a "normal" family...the man I married (who I thought was my best friend) thought it would be a good idea to continue to live like a bachelor and let his momma support his "family"....I called it quits after 5 yrs and two kids....:dunno:

Sorry. Sounds like my youngest sister's first marriage:sadangel:

[mrvette]

ME, 3X and #3 is the charm....little kid sat here and held my hand through some sort of corporate explosion that took over Firefox, my only favorite browser this evening for the last TWO hours battling it out....I dunno what happened, but it's over for Firefox.....

THAT is why I married her, she is a wonderful person....

Unlike the ex, even being the kid's mom.....she lived with this dude about 18 years and finally married....

as in at age 60 or so....why BOTHER?? who gives a shit??, I know I don't, but just this topic makes me laugh in that well, what is the disconnect???

wife here was age 50 or so and granny 14x over and me age 55, but the thing is, the little thing is CUTE as hell, makes me laugh my ass off.....

and that's what counts....:lol::rofl::hurray:

[LisaJohn]

I really did go out with him because he had a cool car, 78 gold TA. Married 31+ years. I'll have to look for pics of the car. We still "like" each other too!

[HeatherO]

Sorry. Sounds like my youngest sister's first marriage:sadangel:

thanks. we've been apart now for 17 yrs...the kids (19/22) are grown and we all get along wonderfully :angel:

[jda67gta]

Because I met a lady that cared enough about me to see through a pretty scummy past, that realized that I would work like a dog to support our family.
I married my best friend almost 32 years ago.
We promised each other that we would grow old, fat, and ugly together.
So far, so good.


Well said. 25 years here. :seasix:

[99 pewtercoupe]

thanks. we've been apart now for 17 yrs...the kids (19/22) are grown and we all get along wonderfully :angel:

Good to hear. A lot of those type of breakups end up leaving the kids as the real losers

[HeatherO]

Good to hear. A lot of those type of breakups end up leaving the kids as the real losers

it wasn't easy when the girls were little...even though the ex was an ass to me, and by his actions, an ass to our girls...they were never deprived of a relationship with their father, and in time, learned just what kind of a man he was (and wasn't)...They are still very close to him, but are now put in a position of being his caretakers...He is a very sick (physically) man...
It's kind of creepy that when they needed him most, he couldn't/wouldn't be there for them...now, that he needs them, they willingly oblige...they are all he has now :sadangel::sadangel:
and even though he was an ass to me...I support them, and don't speak an unkind word about their Daddy :sadangel:

[LATB]

it wasn't easy when the girls were little...even though the ex was an ass to me, and by his actions, an ass to our girls...they were never deprived of a relationship with their father, and in time, learned just what kind of a man he was (and wasn't)...They are still very close to him, but are now put in a position of being his caretakers...He is a very sick (physically) man...
It's kind of creepy that when they needed him most, he couldn't/wouldn't be there for them...now, that he needs them, they willingly oblige...they are all he has now :sadangel::sadangel:
and even though he was an ass to me...I support them, and don't speak an unkind word about their Daddy :sadangel:

impressive :cert:

[Curvette]

We had been living "in sin" and building a cabin in the mountains, no power, in door plumbing , etc.
Then... I wanted kids. OK>..time to get a REAL house and get married in my book .:yesnod:
And we did.

[HeatherO]

We had been living "in sin" and building a cabin in the mountains, no power, in door plumbing , etc.
Then... I wanted kids. OK>..time to get a REAL house and get married in my book .:yesnod:
And we did.

so y'all are still together with kids? how old are your kids?

I wish I could have raised my kids in the mountains with no power and no indoor plumbing... sure as shit would have been better than dealing with the bullies in suburbia :lol::lol:

[island14]

She had the same blood type and I might need a kidney someday

[MEANZ06]

She had the same blood type and I might need a kidney someday


:rofl: if i was only so smart...

[island14]

it wasn't easy when the girls were little...even though the ex was an ass to me, and by his actions, an ass to our girls...they were never deprived of a relationship with their father, and in time, learned just what kind of a man he was (and wasn't)...They are still very close to him, but are now put in a position of being his caretakers...He is a very sick (physically) man...
It's kind of creepy that when they needed him most, he couldn't/wouldn't be there for them...now, that he needs them, they willingly oblige...they are all he has now :sadangel::sadangel:
and even though he was an ass to me...I support them, and don't speak an unkind word about their Daddy :sadangel:

impressive :cert:

:iagree: :yesnod: :yesnod: :yesnod: :yesnod:

Well said and well done Heather! :seasix:

:cert:

[dwjz06]

Love. The next logical step. Everyone needs a starter marriage.:D:lol: take your pick. Gotta take a chance Columbus did:D:cert:

[Sea Six]

A certain woman had been married four times.

Upon the occasion of the bride's fourth wedding reception, a young female virgin had the opportunity to ask the new bride about her four grooms.

The woman answered, "the first time, I married a millionaire... I married for money. The second time, I married an actor. The third time, I married a Baptist preacher. This one is an undertaker."

When the virgin asked the woman why she had married so many times, and for what reasons, the woman replied...





























One for the money;
Two for the show;
Three to get ready
and Four to go!


:dance:

[MrPeabody]

Because I was tired of having sex all the time.:D

[island14]

Because I was tired of having sex all the time.:D

:lol:

[MEANZ06]

Because I was tired of having sex all the time.:D

okay, i don't care who you are thats some funny shit... :rofl:

[island14]

okay, i don't care who you are thats some funny shit... :rofl:

Yeah it is..

:rofl:

[Curvette]

so y'all are still together with kids? how old are your kids?

I wish I could have raised my kids in the mountains with no power and no indoor plumbing... sure as shit would have been better than dealing with the bullies in suburbia :lol::lol:

hey Heather~ :kimblair:
#1. No, he needed to "find himself" and I was way too materialistic.
( LOL, I would love to use this emoticon, but it doesn't really fit :beat:...:rofl:)
#2. Yes, they kids were with me, they are 31 and 29 now and live around here , With families of their own.

Raising children was always something I loved. Being a mom= my #1 Favorite Job. :seasix:

[dwjz06]

Because I was tired of having sex all the time.:D:rofl::rofl::rofl:

[8Up]

Because I wanted the security of a second income in the house.

[Iron Chef]

There is an unconfirmed rumor that I was dropped at birth.

[bizaro]

I thought I would be having sex like 8 times a day.. yeah I know, shoot me! As soon as she said I do, she didn't.:slap:

[dwjz06]

I thought I would be having sex like 8 times a day.. yeah I know, shoot me! As soon as she said I do, she didn't.:slap::lol::cert:

[Ryan Bell]

I get flamed for stuff like this, but since you asked...

I believe "getting married" is a lot more than "having a certificate to go along with being with someone". It's a public, formal covenant in front of everyone you know - and God - that you will be there for that person *no matter what*. It's a binding, serious commitment, and it matters immensely. It's manning up, promising to be there for that person in front of God, family, and friends...not just living with someone and "seeing if it works out". There's no honor or commitment in that. That's selfishly keeping a way out if you're not feeling exactly like you want to, not a TRUE "no matter what" commitment. Marriage is that commitment.

If you're going to do something, do it right. Seal it. Then, keep your promise. No matter what.

Those are my thoughts. I'm not forcing them on anyone, but you better believe that's how I view the whole situation. That will never change.

[C5SilverBullet]

I get flamed for stuff like this, but since you asked...

I believe "getting married" is a lot more than "having a certificate to go along with being with someone". It's a public, formal covenant in front of everyone you know - and God - that you will be there for that person *no matter what*. It's a binding, serious commitment, and it matters immensely. It's manning up, promising to be there for that person in front of God, family, and friends...not just living with someone and "seeing if it works out". There's no honor or commitment in that. That's selfishly keeping a way out if you're not feeling exactly like you want to, not a TRUE "no matter what" commitment. Marriage is that commitment.

If you're going to do something, do it right. Seal it.

Those are my thoughts. I'm not forcing them on anyone, but you better believe that's how I view the whole situation. That will never change.

I agree with you 100%.

[C5Nate]

I dated a lot in high school, used to have 2 or 3 on the string at once. Shortly after high school, before college, I met my to-be-wife. She put a stop to that by showing me that a committed monogamous relationship does not have to be boring. Sex can be just as intense, satisfying, and frequent in a long-term relationship as outside it.

She was taller than most woman I dated, nice body, long brown hair, loved to laugh and loved life. She is the youngest of 3 with 2 older brothers who protected her like she was Fort Knox. Both her brothers were 6’5” and 200 + lbs. I was a bit intimidated, but they soon realized that I was one of the good guys. She loved cars and was driving a blue ’67 SS Chevelle when I met her.

She was the first girl that I could not stand to be away from. I spent every moment that I could afford with her. She came with a great family who loved me as part of their family.

Our feelings for each other were more intense than anything either of us had felt before. We had many discussions about this and felt after 3 years of dating, we were ready to……well, I think Ryan said it best:
a public, formal covenant in front of everyone you know - and God - that you will be there for that person *no matter what*. It's a binding, serious commitment, and it matters immensely. It's manning up, promising to be there for that person in front of God, family, and friends...not just living with someone and "seeing if it works out". There's no honor or commitment in that. That's selfishly keeping a way out if you're not feeling exactly like you want to, not a TRUE "no matter what" commitment. Marriage is that commitment.

If you're going to do something, do it right. Seal it.

[Dan Dlabay]

I got married because I love and am in love with my wife.:cert:

[PLRX]

She was pregnant and Daddy had a gun. Serious.

Thats my brothers story and they had three kids between Dec 99 and Jan 2001. 12 years later they still married.

[Flatbush Harry]

because I love my wife. Simple as that.

Still crazy (about her) after all these years.

It's been 40 years together, 37-1/2 married, and a great relationship and financial partnership during that time. I would have been both much less successful and much, much less happy had we not gotten together and married.

YMMV.

Hryra

PS-we've gotten to the "sickness" part in the "in sickness and health"....not yet to the "poorer" and the "worse". I couldn't be happier to be a caregiver.

[...Whitepower...]

Because my wife is awesome as shit and has a nice ass.

[stingraymyway]

Because Al Bundy is my freakin' Hero.........:shots:

[Burro (He/Haw)]

Because my wife is awesome as shit and has a nice ass.

Never underestimate the power of a great turdcutter.

[vetteman9368]

Because my wife is awesome as shit and has a nice ass.

Bs w/o pics

[FasterTraffic]

I believe "getting married" is a lot more than "having a certificate to go along with being with someone". It's a public, formal covenant in front of everyone you know ... that you will be there for that person *no matter what*. It's a binding, serious commitment, and it matters immensely. It's manning up, promising to be there for that person in front of ... family, and friends...not just living with someone and "seeing if it works out". There's no honor or commitment in that. That's selfishly keeping a way out if you're not feeling exactly like you want to, not a TRUE "no matter what" commitment. Marriage is that commitment.

If you're going to do something, do it right. Seal it. Then, keep your promise. No matter what.

This (after edits).

:iagree:

Plus, I'm constantly reminded why my wife is awesome. I had a good life when I was single but life can be pretty darn great with the right person in the foxhole with you.

[DJ_Critterus]

I got married because I love and am in love with my wife.:cert:

This... :yesnod:

Can't be happy without that attitude and outlook on life when it comes to your marriage.... and neither can she.

Why did I tie the knot? I loved my wife back then over six years ago when I proposed and still do love the little lady to this day after just over six years of marriage. I got lucky (no pun) when she said, "yes" followed by, " I do."

I've recently learned that marriage is truly a compromise, but it's 20% thinking of yourself and 80% thinking of her. I firmly believe my wife has the same attitude and we are much, much happier these days.

[...Whitepower...]

This (after edits).

:iagree:



No jeebus for you! :rofl:

[Aerovette]

Temporary insanity ??:D

[...Whitepower...]

Bs w/o pics

Just posted one two days ago.

Go search. I'm going to bed.

Later.

[DJ_Critterus]

Just posted one two days ago.

Go search. I'm going to bed.

Later.

bastage!!! :mad: You know the rules and you know how lazy TLH is.