Good one from other place....people you have lost

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If you walked into a room with everyone you ever lost
who would you want to see first ?


Ours would be our son :sadangel:


History of my avatar...

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[69camfrk]

I've lost so many people over the years, it is almost hard to pick one. That said, my Mom....:sadangel:

[Big bob]

My wife :sadangel:

[Taurus]

My brother although I would also like a chance to meet my wife’s mother. I would love to get to know the soul that shaped a loving wife, mother and grandmother into who she is today.

[Steve_R]

My dad. He’s kneeling second from the left in this photo:

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[Dan47]

My dogs.

[Onebadcad]

Lost my sister and brother in 2005, three months apart, unexpectedly.
It was brutal, even more brutal was convincing my Mums that her life did not end with theirs.
Mums made it another 15 years, I made sure her grandchildren filled the void.

Lost George, our first family dog, four years ago, will never get over that, George is just better than all other dogs, still tears me up.
Ringo needs to live forever, as no way could I deal with that, he can be an ahole, but he is my ahole!!

The wifey has to last longer than me,,, I tell her this often; she will, she is better than me.

I am damn tough, but losing a loved one digs too damn deep, I am not built for it.

[LATB]

My natural father who died when I was 15 months old. I never had a chance to meet him and would very much like to.

[VatorMan]

My Dad. :sadangel:

[dvarapala]

If you walked into a room with everyone you ever lost
who would you want to see first ?

"Lost" as in death, or "lost" as in "I ****ed up and drove her away?"

:waiting:

[Louie Detroit]

Lost is a kind of a peculiar word to describe having died, it's not like they're a set of car keys is it?

[04 commemorative]

If you read the first post (mine) I think, anyone of common sensibilities could figure it out

[Murray]

If you read the first post (mine) I think, anyone of common sensibilities could figure it out

Other place was “met”

Very different from lost

[Egnalf]

my former best friend who lost his life in 2009 due to a medical fkup at one of the nation's best hospitals.

[04 commemorative]

Other place was “met”

Very different from lost

yes.....met to me could mean they are still alive which this thread was not about ....thanks so much for pointing that out .:seasix:

[Frankie the Fink]

My Mom - whose Herculean effort to give us kids a quality life in spite of being married to a certifiable @hole went unappreciated until she was gone..... My two brothers and one sister often lament that we didn't appreciate the wonderful home life she provided and the monumental bullshit she put up with on our behalf.

If you ever watched Robert Duvall in "The Great Santini" you'll have a good idea of our father (also a Marine).

[04 commemorative]

My Mom - whose Herculean effort to give us kids a quality life in spite of being married to a certifiable @hole went unappreciated until she was gone..... My two brothers and one sister often lament that we didn't appreciate the wonderful home life she provided and the monumental bullshit she put up with on our behalf.

If you ever watched Robert Duvall in "The Great Santini" you'll have a good idea of our father (also a Marine).

Great film but man....so sorry you had to deal with that :eek:

[snide]

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<--- That guy.

[slewfoot]

I wouldn't mind meet some I never knew. Great Grandfather, my moms side died when i was 2 back in 58. Met great grand ma when I was 12. Great grandfather from my moms dad.

Stuff like that.

[LilRedCorvette]

My dogs.

:iagree: All of them. What a reunion that would be :angel:

[Bruze]

Wow. Getting old isn't for sissies. :(

My mom was the last out of my parent's generation to die, and that was in 2002. My dad, aunts, uncles, all gone before her. I only had one living grandparent when I was born, and he died in 1963.

Three out of a dozen cousins are gone (one was murdered by her husband) my high school buddy died in 2002, plus several older friends have died in recent years.

That's the way it goes. :shrug:

[zeek]

My Mom....:sadangel:

[VITE1]

My brother. He killed himself 3 months before my son was born. I will smack the crap out of him for what he took from all.of us.

[04 commemorative]

My brother. He killed himself 3 months before my son was born. I will smack the crap out of him for what he took from all.of us.

So sorry to hear this....no one knows the demons that are in peoples heads that take their own life.....:sadangel:

[ZipZap]

Pops. He went too soon and we did not see each other more than once a year due to his schedule or mine during the final 15-20 yeqrs. There was a bunch of stuff I would ask him, like would he like to meet his orphaned daughter born a few months before he split for the Navy? Nobody in the family, as far as I could tell, knew anything until 23 and Me tracked down his genetics and I got a cold call from my older half-sister introducing herself. He was always a really quiet guy with personal stuff. He had some money problems and was too embarrassed at the time to let me know how bad he had let it go. I was in a position I could have helped.

As far as in general, I'm not surprised at the fact folks that I know are dying. What's a bit alarming is the fact that the rate of death in my group seems to have an exponential relationship with age as opposed to linear.

I guess it does flatten out if you die last:rofl:

[donuts]

My grandfather’s,, both passed before I was born

[04 commemorative]

My grandfather’s,, both passed before I was born

My dad's father passed before I was born....would have been great to have known him :seasix:

[VITE1]

My grandfather’s,, both passed before I was born

Both of mine were dead before I was born. When I asked my Dad how they died he said" They wanted to". Given that both Grand ma's for total raving bitches I understood.

[LATB]

My dad's father passed before I was born....would have been great to have known him :seasix:

I only remember my grand dad on my father's side a little bit. He was a tough little ornery Irishman and a sailor and had the "fouled anchor" tattoo on his popeye forearm.
And I remember he drank a raw egg every morning and a shot of whiskey each night.
He lived lived into his 90's. As did my paternal grandmother.
Praying I got a good dose of their genes. :seasix:

[Mick]

Both of mine were dead before I was born. When I asked my Dad how they died he said" They wanted to". Given that both Grand ma's for total raving bitches I understood.

My Mother's father died when she was 2 years old, even she didn't remember him. My Father's father died when my Dad was 19 or 20, he didn't have me until he was 34, so by the time I was born, they had both been gone a long time.

If I had to pick one person to see again, it would be my little brother. He died at 17 when I was 23. :sadangel:

[04 commemorative]

Sorry about your brother Mick :sadangel:

[04 commemorative]

My mom would have been 100 today !
:birthday: Mom

[BADRACR1]

My brother although I would also like a chance to meet my wife’s mother. I would love to get to know the soul that shaped a loving wife, mother and grandmother into who she is today.

Very well stated, sir.
I knew my wife's Mom many years ago as my wife and I dated in high school. Saw each other for a couple of months twice over the next ten years. Fast forward twenty years and we finally got it right. Been together since '06. She lost her Mom in 2001. I have often remarked that I wonder what she would think.

[BADRACR1]

I have lost both parents (Dad, '99, and Mom, '14), all my grandparents, a brother (2021), <<<a grandson (2010), and two best friends.
I would have to pick Mom. Because...well, Mom. I was the first born. We were always very close, and the last few years she lived next door to me so I saw her pretty much every day. We had dinner every Sunday, even on the Sunday she passed. I was with her.
My brother and Dad would be a close second. The grandson would be right with them.
But it would have to be Mom. I lost her May 2014. My brother left us Nov 2021 in an auto accident. I still miss both of them every day.
That's the worst part of getting older.:sadangel:

[SnikPlosskin]

My dad tops my list. i rushed to Wyoming hoping to see him one more time as he laid on his deathbed. The airline jack up my flight causing me an overnight stay in Denver. I didn't get there on time.

The last time I saw him was about three years prior. We spent Christmas with my mom and dad. Everyone got norovirus. It was miserable. I almost died (it's very dangerous for people with Crohn's) and my dad was very sick. I believe it was the start of his downfall.

As we packed the truck to leave (we drove because we took the dogs) he was silent. The wind was blowing 60-70 mph (no exaggeration) it was below zero as I fought the wind and snow packing the truck.

When it was time to leave, my father cried and said he knew it was the last time he would see us. I reassured him that was not going to be the case. I didn't know I would become very ill and unable to travel for the next three years. I usually visit at least once a year.

I had never seen him cry.

[MikeB]

Until I lost my wife 1 year ago tomorrow, my Dad was the top of my list.
He was my best friend.
The 3rd of 4 kids, I was never the favorite, or #1.
But life has a weird way of maturing.
We grew close later in life. I left home early, at 18, only to return
when I was 30. Dad retired 10 years later,and moved to the same town I had moved
to. He became my best friend during the next 20+year period, as both my family,
and my wife's family progressed on. Until finally, it's just us and the kids are left. Lost my life partner Marianne of 52 years on Halloween, 2022.
Now, life sucks.

[04 commemorative]

Such sad stories....:sadangel:

[Aerovette]

Definitely my dad. Losing him changed my entire life and I am such a mess that I don't really even know how to grieve properly. I swallow every emotion I have about everything. His loss has turned my heart to a solid rock with zero fks given about much of anything.

Sympathy for animals and love for my mom are all I have left.

Yeah, I'm unloading. It happens.

Going away now.

[04 commemorative]

aero, totally understand....so sorry :sadangel:

[Yesfam]

My dad. He passed away a couple of days after his 59th birthday in 1994. I spoke with him on his birthday, it was a Tuesday. Saturday he was dead. He got sepsis from an infected hangnail. He was dead by Saturday. It would be great to sit with him and have a beer.