Lost a best friend today.

[Datawiz]

And the other one knows who he is.

Becky was one of my race club members and officers, I last saw her just this Tuesday at our race venue to view the space that's finally available for us to use starting in March (we lost access to the site from October to February due to Hurricane Ian). Was on the phone with her last night discussing her new job at the school district, and the stress that the old boss gave her about leaving, till the very end, is what did her in.

Becky was not the epitome of health, but she was only 59. She was brilliant and insanely dedicated to her job. Old boss had agreed to release her on March 6th for new job, and then changed her mind and told Becky that she could force her to work as long as she wanted to until she trained a suitable replacement.

She was in her car this morning, ready to leave for work, and had a heart attack. She was able to call her sister-in-law (her only family left), who quickly got there and administered CPR, but it was too late.

I invested over $5k into her BRZ and have run it with her for the last 2.5 years. I'm going to try and work with the bank to take over the payments. Car is a 2020, and only has 3k miles. I'm going to take possession of both her, and her dead husband's race helmets and keep them with the club. Unfortunately, she was deeply ingrained in our race club and we have a lot a challenges to sort out with various accounts.

I've been best friends with her for about 15 years, and miss her dearly. This came out of nowhere. Now the fun begins on dealing with her estate. Gonna have to move both of our race trailers off of her property this weekend, lest they get broken into.

Miss you Becky. :sadangel:

[Aerovette]

Very sorry. We are reaching that age where our friends start to pass and it's tough. She was young.

[DAB]

59..... i'll be 60 in April.

if a job no longer suits you: quit. that day if needed. walk out, take care of yourself first.

sounds like her boss was an idiot.

[Rikki Z-06]

Condolences Craig :sadangel:

[Big bob]

Prayers sent:sadangel:

[Bill]

Sorry for your loss. It's tough to lose people you care about.

:sadangel:

[99 pewtercoupe]

Sorry for your loss :sadangel:
I retired at 62 because I knew my job was going to kill me. Told my wife that I did not want to die at my desk ( like two other employees did) and we had the funds to do it. That was five years ago…never looked back

[Datawiz]

Just spoke with Becky's sister (ONLY living family) and she could not find her SSN, and can't begin a process of anything without it. My wife overheard my conversation, and promptly reminded me that I gave her a 1099 in the past when she worked for me. We had to figure out the timeline, but I ultimately found the 1096/1099 red forms that have all of her info, address, ..., but definitely her SSN, so that's a HUGE burden off of everyone.

[Taurus]

Very sorry, sad to see good friends go.:sadangel:

[DAB]

Just spoke with Becky's sister (ONLY living family) and she could not find her SSN, and can't begin a process of anything without it. My wife overheard my conversation, and promptly reminded me that I gave her a 1099 in the past when she worked for me. We had to figure out the timeline, but I ultimately found the 1096/1099 red forms that have all of her info, address, ..., but definitely her SSN, so that's a HUGE burden off of everyone.

somewhat of a tangent:

after Linda passed away last August, i revised my will and other documents, and also prepared several pages of info that my heirs and executor will need later on.

full name, birthplace, birth date, father and mother's names (maiden too), SSN, listing of bank and investment accts, passwords/codes - stuff like that (i can do a more complete list in a separate thread).

i learned from having to help fill out Linda's death cert that the state needs certain info, including some of the above, before they will proceed with issuing a cert. of death - and you'll need that for many things.

sorry to hear of your loss Craig, she sounds like a special lady who will be missed.

:grouphug:

[Taurus]

Sorry for your loss :sadangel:
I retired at 62 because I knew my job was going to kill me. Told my wife that I did not want to die at my desk ( like two other employees did) and we had the funds to do it. That was five years ago…never looked back

Me as well, I was not going to drop dead doing a job no one really appreciated except for those profiting on my work. My best friend dropped dead at 62 coming home from another late night at work, died in his driveway trying to get to the house and they found him the next morning under a couple inches of snow. No thanks, I retired in 2021 at 63 and have been happier than at any time in my life and I've never been healthier.

[JRD77VET]

Sorry about your friend Becky. :sadangel:

[73sbVert]

Sorry for your loss Craig. :sadangel:
That sucks, and I'm not looking forward to dealing with some of my closer friends as they start passing on either.

I'm planning to retire right after eligibility (plus allowance for tax purposes!) and enjoy it.

Let us know if you need anything.

[cptlo306]

:sadangel:

[bigblock427]

Please accept my condolences.

[slewfoot]

Me as well, I was not going to drop dead doing a job no one really appreciated except for those profiting on my work. My best friend dropped dead at 62 coming home from another late night at work, died in his driveway trying to get to the house and they found him the next morning under a couple inches of snow. No thanks, I retired in 2021 at 63 and have been happier than at any time in my life and I've never been healthier.


I retired just a year ago from the local govt at 66. Within a couple months, wife saw a huge change in me not being so pissed off all the time along with a more relaxed IDGAF attitude.

Sorry for your loss. :sadangel:

[LisaJohn]

I am so sorry.

[MikeB]

Sad to hear of the loss of your friend.

Life really sucks at times.

[04 commemorative]

:sadangel:

[Burro (He/Haw)]

This is sad on multiple fronts. First you lost a friend. Second, the job thing. It's really easy to say "I don't give a **** it's just a job." But if you're not built that way you can say that all the live long and it won't matter. She was hardwired to GAF.

[Black94lt1]

:sadangel: My sincerest condolences, way too young

[RMVette]

So sorry to hear about your friend. :sadangel:

[Mick]

Sorry to hear about this. 59 is WAY too young! :sadangel:

[Frankie the Fink]

Very sorry. We are reaching that age where our friends start to pass and it's tough. She was young.
I'm losing acquaintances at a prodigious rate now; seems like at least one every 3 months. I'm sorry about your friend...

[16again]

I'm sorry to hear this Craig. :sadangel:

[Don Rickles]

Sounds like, you'll have lots of good memories.:yesnod:

:sadangel:

[VatorMan]

:sadangel: My condolences.

[Strats-N-Vettes]

Sorry to hear about your friend. My condolences to you and your family, and friends.

[MadInNc]

Sorry for your loss :sadangel:
I retired at 62 because I knew my job was going to kill me. Told my wife that I did not want to die at my desk ( like two other employees did) and we had the funds to do it. That was five years ago…never looked back

Me as well, I was not going to drop dead doing a job no one really appreciated except for those profiting on my work. My best friend dropped dead at 62 coming home from another late night at work, died in his driveway trying to get to the house and they found him the next morning under a couple inches of snow. No thanks, I retired in 2021 at 63 and have been happier than at any time in my life and I've never been healthier.

My friend and co-worker who ran the Americas while I ran global and key program was at a group meeting where I haven’t seen him (we talked daily) in 3 months. Meeting was in his home town. He went home and the next day was supposed to be wrap up and by noon he and his family were going to Disneyland. Well while taking a shower that night he heart attacked and poof, like that he was gone.

I retired per a plan with mgmt at 55, 8 years ago. RIP Neil

Ya never know when the persons, or yours roulette wheel will stop

[snide]

Sorry to hear about the loss of Becky. :sadangel:

[BADRACR1]

Very sorry to hear.
I lost one best friend in 2007 at 52. Another in 2009 at 44. One brother (and best friend) in 2021 at 58.
Three years til I can retire.
Again, sorry to hear.

[simpleman68]

I was really surprised when you gave me the news. She was an absolute doll and pleasure to be around.
Truly awful when people leave us when it seems they should have years left to enjoy the world. :sadangel:

On a side note, I'll try my best to stay healthy. You gotta have at least one ham-n-egger to teach at the track. And, who else would you dissect scotches with? :D
Scott

[Datawiz]

Little let down by my club members today, because I needed help, but I successfully reclaimed our 3 trailers, her BRZ (with my parts), but it took me 7 hours all by myself. Our club has 12 members. Not a happy camper at the moment. We'll be meeting Monday night at 6:30 for next steps, but it sucked nobody was available, and they had advance notice.

I did gain possession of Becky's 3 helmets. I plan on making a shrine out of them, maybe one or two in my office, and one in our race trailer. I can only have these trailers here till Monday, and I'm making arrangements with our airstrip to temporarily host our equipment (hopefully till our first weekend back on 3/18-19) and then we'll have to find a permanent storage solution. Trailer overdue for a wash and wax, that'll happen tomorrow.

This has been a suck job to the nth degree for sure. :sadangel:

[Craig]

Wow, really sorry for the loss of your friend. :sadangel:

[simpleman68]

I'm still a few weeks off from being back or I'd be all over help detail.

I'm having most of the immediate family at the Cape house for Easter week.
We'll have to catch up along the way. Been too long brother... :shots:
Scott

[NEED-A-VETTE]

Sorry, Craig. :nonod:

[Vegas]

Condolences, sucks none of the others stepped up to help

[stingraymyway]

Sorry for the loss of your friend.
Condolences to the family.

[sasnglass77]

:grouphug:

So sorry to hear of Becky's passing. I couldn't believe it when Alan told me :(

Thank you, for giving me the opportunity to talk with her, learn from her and get to know her. She truly was a beautiful person. She will be missed by many. We did a lot of calls, sometimes even it was what we sere suppose to be doing but most of the times we chatted about the love we have/had for our dogs and shared some autocrossing stories. She was a beautiful soul.

Thinking of you and your loss.

:grouphug:

[Datawiz]

Spent another massive amount of time helping clean out her place. I did find our race club's laptops...still have to figure out one of the passwords. I found the shocks, swaybar, and the brand new set of tires that I bought for her BRZ, so my $5k investment in her car is now more in my control.

Once I got home, I spent a ton of time trying to clean our club trailer. It was way overdue. Patty wants something to do, so she's gonna finish the detailing of the trailer in the next few days. I only got 2 panels done.

Here's where I left off...