Serious Refection Today On Life

[Norm]

Was cutting the grass this evening, takes about an hour. I do a lot of thinking when mowing. I was reflecting on my life, my success', my failures, accomplishments, spouse, family, kids and grandkids.

I'm 75 and it seems health issues are really catching up to me now, just not myself. My health is so-so, I'm figuring I'm still going to be around a while.

My main thoughts were what Doug had gone through with his beloved Linda. Such a battle folks go through when they know they are going to loose a cherished one. I can't imagine the heartache.

I do not know if I would have the courage to go through that. Hug and tell your family you love them, life is not forever.

[Rodnok1]

You start treatments Norm?

[snide]

May I have your shark when your time comes?:leaving:

Yes, life is too short.

A few weeks ago, my 30 year old son announced that he was engaged. I got significantly older that. day. :yesnod:

About a month ago, my aunt (dad's youngest sister) passed away. Dad is in an extended care facility, and in amazingly good health, considering he was given 6 months to live, about 3 years ago.

A contractor who is doing work for me lost his fiance a couple of weeks ago, to an aneurism.

When your number is up, it's up.

:cheers:

[Norm]

You start treatments Norm?

Yes, going on third week, kicking my butt a bit but manageable.

[Don Rickles]

I truly believe that our "mindset" has more to do with this than we know. :yesnod:

Whenever I've heard someone say the words, "I'm really tired", the end is close....I've met so many that take their illnesses in stride, they just seem to go on and on!


Norm, just keep cutting that damn grass!:seasix:

[Burro (He/Haw)]

I do not know if I would have the courage to go through that.

Of course you would.

I lost my father to an accident, a kid a mentored for 10 years to a drug overdose, my wife got cancer then the marriage came to an end and two of my dogs passed on the same day. All within one year.

You get up in the morning, cry, and carry on. What other options do you really have?

[sublime1996525]

Losing my dad last year really put things into prospective for me. I have tried to do a much better job at not worrying about things that are out of my control and just living in the moment. Sure, sometimes that moment sucks but most of the time it's pretty great.

[slewfoot]

Some things I have learned over the years when the first stages of a basically terminal illness show up, a time frame is generally given but they did not pass from the illness.

My dad had lung cancer. He didn't die from it, an aneurysm between his heart and lungs show up one morning and bingo!

Family friend had leukemia fought it for a couple years and doing well. One day out of the blue he had a fatal stroke.

A few more relatives and friends from the same thing, they didn't die from what they were diagnosed with. When you are told 6 months, very likely could be 6 weeks or 6 days.

[Taurus]

Good post, self reflection is usually very good therapy. Over the past couple of years I have lost a father in law, my mother and my father. In the past couple months I lost both my dogs who have been with me for 20 years, sometimes the pain makes you want to give up and become a recluse. We move on because we still have people in our lives that mean something to us and need our help.

Circumstances can make that difficult but we usually get he help we need from deep inside or from those people we are important to. Keep up the good fight everyone.

[Egnalf]

I lost my parents 22 years ago, I had barely started my adult life. You grieve and learn to move on. It sucks the most around holidays and major accomplishments or milestones in life that you can't share those things with them. you want to pick up the phone and share, but you can't, they arent there to answer. Friends try to be supportive, but they are not family no matter how hard they try.

[DAB]

as i get older (59 now), i just shake my head at all these people who have all these fine things - big houses, fancy cars, exotic travel, nice stuffs - you get the idea, and they often like to brag about how successful they are.

and i wonder, have they taken an hour, with some quiet in the house, TV off, and thought was is really important? most likely, no. they are too busy with the stuff of life to enjoy life really.

a quiet dinner, a softly held hand, a little caress or soft kiss - just because. how often do they tell their spouse "i love you", and how much time do they spend loving all their crap?

when Linda's car would get dirty, which was often, i'd wash it. not because i like washing cars, or i want the world to see a clean car, but because she liked a clean car, and because I loved her, so I wanted to please her. not always successful, but i tried and succeeded most of the time. except when i killed a plant she didn't want killed....sorry dear, we'll buy a new one, lesson learned.

:DAB: